Is it alright to be friends with insecure people?

[PeaceandWar]

My son auntie and I are friends but she is deeply insecure. She is my only friend but I notice when we go out she feels some type of way that I get more attention than she does. I've had a really bad experience in the past with my cousin who was insecure. My son auntie won't hurt me in the same way but I also don't want to be absorbing that energy. I like to be around people who are motivated, successfully, happy, and confident. I question everything she says and does because of this. I can't just cut her off completely because she's my son auntie but she changes my positive energy when we're around each other and again she's my only friend.

[Genuineguy]

We like to be around positive people but no one is confident and happy all the time. Sometimes it helps us to help someone else. It can help develop our qualities and make us feel better about ourselves to stick in there with others even if they aren't always on form so to speak. Everywhere you look you will find people who aren't as positive as they would like to be at times. Don't cut yourself off from others entirely because of this otherwise you will be a very lonely person.

[Against_the_current]

Yes. Actually should this even be a question? Be there for her. And insecure people are the best

[MetallicGradient]

Especially because she is your only friend, I think it would be a good idea for both of you not to cut contact as long as it doesn't take much of a toll on you to be around her. We all have our preferences in regards to the kind of people we like to be around, but sometimes, interacting with people outside these preferences may lead to long lasting, enriching relationships. You mention you had a bad experience with a cousin due to insecurity, perhaps you can use what you learn from this friendship to handle other insecure people in the future.

The best part, just as you are learning from her, your friend may learn from you. Ultimately, the choice is yours but, I would say to keep contact as long as it doesn't cause either of you harm.