This can’t be it!

[Lovetwogarden]

Going through a divorce, living with my sister, is this really my life. I get up go to work get home get in bed. I never wanted to be starting over at my age. I have no friends, I lost them all because of my past situation. How do I start over?

[moxond]

Sorry to hear about you're anguish hope is in the midst of things and lightened burdens shared you are worthy and matter changes a lot of perspective and feeling of self worth looking ahead is not always easy but with compassion and self care you can build and change reality to work with you in a positive sense re -energising self belief and habits that embrace joy and hope and self being shared interests or a gentle talk with those who share appreciations small group meetings or likewise or in extremes talking therapy may hep elevate any worries or concerns sometimes hope you can gain confidence it self and live a life of fulfilment don't give be courage's in strength

[san_ray70]

There is a life after divorce, that is what a friend told me years ago. I was married for 18 years, got divorced made a life for myself. Met a man and moved a long way from home to get married. We are very happy, he is a lot different to my first husband.

[fauxartist]

No... it's not... believe me.... I didn't find my true soul mate till I hit 50+. First I had to hit bottom, and scraped along it for a while after my divorce, illness, deaths, and loss, until I got through all the muck of it all, and then I got to know me for a while. I liked me... I'm going to be okay.... no my life was not going to have all the privilege of having the house, and money, and stuff.... but you know what... it's just stuff. And after I got over fantasizing about how great my life was, I remembered the truths of so much compromising I was doing and how much I had given away of myself. Now... I am finally happisher... I have depression… but it doesn't define me... and it's a learning curve for sure making a big life change... but I'm glad now I did or I wouldn't be where I am now. No, I don't have all the stuff, but I have what I need, and much more than I could have ever hoped for.

You will be okay...

[Midori]

Not the easiest of things at any age, divorce, unless you are a totally hardhearted person, which I'm sure you aren't, or you wouldn't be here!

Tell us a little more about yourself, and we might be better placed to help you. The really grisly details aren't necessary.

Cheers, Midori

[Bella_lee]

Hi @Lovetwogarden, so sorry to hear this. Divorce is always a painful option and no one is really prepared to go through it. I do understand how hard it must be for you right now in this phase of your life but I want to encourage you to remain strong and stay hopeful. Divorce does not have to define you or your future and there can be light at the end of this tunnel.I say give yourself some time to heal emotionally as divorce does take a toll on the emotions but with time you will get stronger.

Would you consider counseling to help you process what has happened and the best way forward.

I know it's easier said than done, but I want to encourage you to try and take baby steps everyday as you navigate this new phase of your life. Be good to yourself and to your body. Take time out to exercise, eat well and relax. Consider joining a support group where you can talk to others in similar situations, isolating yourself can raise your stress levels but also give yourself permission to feel and to function at a less than optimal level for a period of time.

When you feel you're ready maybe sign up for an art class, find a hobby you like, volunteer, and take time to interact with new people, who knows where friendships will begin to blossom for you.

I pray the near future brings supportive friendships into your life and wisdom for the days ahead. Wish you all the best.