Can’t stay home alone

[Freespirit427]

Does anyone have any tips or been through this? I don’t stay home alone, drive alone, ride/drive on the highway 😩 these are my main triggers and I’m so over it, I miss being independent...any suggestions?

[Sprinkle1]

I live by myself, have for 25 years. If it gets too quiet at home, I put a station on that people are talking, I put it on low and go about my day, feels like I have company as I hear human voices. I have taken a stuffed animal in the car, I put the seat belt on it, play some nice music and chat to the animal. These things have worked for me, give it a try....I wish you well, tell us how you are coping, we are here to offer love and support, sending big hugs and peace.......

[Freespirit427 in reply to Sprinkle1]

Thanh you so much! I’m going to try some of your techniques 🤔 I’ll keep you posted

[BluePeppermint]

Do you have a therapist? It sounds like it might be time. I saw several therapists in my teens and early 20s, but recently had to start again. It actually feels like I'm taking control of my life.

[Sprinkle1 in reply to BluePeppermint]

Hi, Yes I have a therapist, she is wonderful, she helps keep me sane. Cannot go to her office due to covid, she knows I am all by myself, family in UK, I am 78 and need support, she calls me twice a week, it is a Big help. Shop around for someone who fits your needs and who you like. You need love and support, we will help you if we can, we offer support and love. I send you Peace, love n hugs....

[Freespirit427 in reply to BluePeppermint]

No I don’t....I use to but I have no insurance now. Congratulations to you on getting control of your life I’m working on it

[BluePeppermint in reply to Freespirit427]

Oh, I don't have control of my life just yet. I've only had one appointment with my new therapist. But I do feel like I'm heading in the right direction. This group is great, but I think you need to look into therapy options that may be available at low or no cost to you. Personally, I wish I had MORE time alone.

[Freespirit427 in reply to BluePeppermint]

Oh ok....yes this group is awesome. Yes I’ll do that...I totally understand if I could I would love alone time but I’m never alone out of fear

[Hidden]

My son doesn't like being alone at home either. I suppose it's anxiety that's stopping you? When I'm alone I try and watch something I like....I cuddle my dogs...sometimes ( not a lot) I like to be alone just to catch up with my thoughts and be away from the person I live with....perhaps try the odd hour then build up to a little more. Also phoning a friend would help. Good luck.

[Shivedita]

Well many suggestions are already here.

You can build it up slowly. Just try to be alone for little time first and there try to occupy yourself with things you cherish by being with yourself like reading books, cooking, anything. And increase it gradually, may be till going on a solo travel.

One thing that could be difficult is your mind getting occupied with thoughts while you are alone. So try to first engage in activities and then bring the mindfulness as you increase the alone time.

I hope this helps!

[Freespirit427 in reply to Shivedita]

Yes this helps! Thank you so much for taking the time to respond ❤️

[Shivedita in reply to Freespirit427]

Anytime

[misslillie]

I have a cat and a dog. The responsibility makes getup in the morning. The dog requires walking so I get a bit of exercise too

[Freespirit427 in reply to misslillie]

That’s awesome Misslillie❤️