How to deal emotionally immature parents who thrive by causing issues

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My parents are textbook narcissists and because of COVID-19 I had to move back home. Things have certainly not been easy with them. They tend to do this thing where every time there is a disagreement, they go off on a tangent about every single wrong thing i have ever done. They bring up issues that are not at all related to the matter at hand. And they have a tendency to bring up other very touchy topics that they know will cause further drama. I do not know how to handle this. Any suggestions?

[fauxartist]

I'd limit your conversations to very basic stuff and always have a quick exit strategy after any brief encounter, because a narc thrives on attention, good or bad, and the only way to deal with them is no contact, or as I stated above...limit conversations, don't let yourself get goated or baited, because they know how to push your buttons, stay away from them as much as you can and don't engage even if you are being prodded to. Learn to walk away.

[Midori]

Hi there,

Welcome to the Community! We are all in similar circumstances, all with our own anxieties and depressions, and we are a supportive bunch here.

First thing I would suggest is locking your posts to this community, so it is more secure, as we do get the occasional troll, and you wouldn't want your business all over the Net.

Ideally, as soon as you can, get out and into your own accommodation. Living with Narcissists will bring you down quicker than anything else and go no contact, or as little as possible.

There is little to nothing you can do to change them, for you it is a toxic situation which you need to leave ASAP.

Cheers, Midori