I see people becoming comfortable with hate,and being at ease with being mean,and liars who love to spread unsubstantiated gossip.
But i will not play a game with bullies and liars,for the pain they create is a pain that never leaves,for it is often a torment that for some us, started at childhood,and that torment often follows us to adulthood,it is cruel and unrelenting, and to often it is shackled to us for life.
I do think society has become meaner... there doesn't seem to be any filters anymore, and the bar has been lowered so much that just about anything goes. But we can do our best to keep ourselves safe from the bullies by letting them own their own crap, we don't have to take on the garbage they dump. We don't have to be anyone's Commode, as someone once told me. Words hurt initially and then we think about it rationally, we act and not react... if necessary we can walk away and say nothing, which is the best solution for people who bully, for them anything you say they can gaslight you with and turn it back on you, so you're wasting your breath trying to rationally talk with them. Furthermore... bullies are pathetic cowards that are not worth your time anyway.
you are absolutely correct,they are the lowest of the low.
Society has been here before, and over time there were some glimmers of hope and human rights returning, but right now, I am worried. Every state that can, is diminishing people's rights one at a time, and that leads more to a more totalitarian state of politics when people are asked to turn neighbors in for violations of some of these new laws that have taken personal rights away.
You are darn right about the gaslighting Faux, l am a fiery lady though, find it hard to keep my cool!
Ah, where have all the flowers gone, beautiful song 😘
Thankfully in my seventies I’ve never experienced bullying in my life, I realise that I must be extremely lucky , but I have dealt with lies and jealousy which was very hurtful at the time, but over the years I’ve come to realise that the people who spread false accusations were hurting inside and by being envious of others and spreading lies it somehow made them feel better, and I’ve come to realise that it was their problem not mine, I’ve forgiven them , but I’ll never forget the hurt they caused.
I feel tbat same pain. They don't seem to think of the consequences for the person they target Id somebody bothering you at the moment?
Social media is mean and toxic... at least Facebook is. It has to change. I left it. I do read and keep up with the news. I also help local campaigns. But I stay away from groups that just complain. What helps is going to places like a yoga studio or meetup groups with activities that I really enjoy.
I closed my Facebook down too, it's like a rudeness free for all on it.. A complete waste of time too.
Only reason I have an account is I need to sell stuff and marketplace is safer than the other option. I hate NextDoor too. Best thing I can say is you learn which neighbors to avoid.
I tried next door and realised i wasnt interested in most of my neighbours, i know a couple and thats enough.
Years ago I totally got off of Facebook. I had a friend for awhile who was on some kind of quest to be Mr. Popular or something like that. Through him I met all these other people and became Facebook friends with them. Then about two years later, me and him had a huge falling out, and all these other people who were really his friends, not mine, didn’t talk to me too much either. So much for that. And as I got to know him better, some of his so called friends were telling me some lousy things about him. One girl who was a mutual friend actually told me over the phone that he was two-faced. Because of Facebook it seems like a lot of people are “frienimies “. I actually made an attempt to get back on it, I have a Facebook page but I have absolutely no Facebook friends and I think I’m just going to keep it that way. I consider a real friend to be someone who actually calls and texts me . Not someone posting stupid stuff like what they ate for lunch today.
I miss some things. It just isn't worth the toxicity. I met two childhood friends for coffee over christmas. That never would have happened otherwise. I just wish there was a better option. I have to log on for marketplace to sell stuff but I don't even look at notifications. In 2020 I lost a few friends that I didn't care that much about. In general I think it should stay. I want Zuckerberg gone and it to be regulated since they aren't doing it themselves. I want the toxic AI to go.
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