Just a small town girl... living in a lonely world.

[Valhalla]

But I couldn’t find a midnight train, so I thought I would say hello. I’m new, and I've never talked with anyone (except my doctor) about struggling daily with anxiety and depression. And even when I talk with a doctor or therapist, I seem to give them a "lighter" version of what I'm actually feeling. I default/deflect to humor, a lot. And by "a lot" - I mean all the time. Lately, things just seem to feel heavier, so I thought I would look for some kind of community to talk and to listen. And to just "be".

[Hidden]

Well welcome to the site!!!! We are an interesting bunch, never a dull moment. We do our best to be helpful and encouraging on here. I love that song by Journey too.

[AdamFCastillo31]

(CBT) Therapy/counseling is the best way to treat depression and anxiety. I had the same treatment to deal with my anxiety. You should try to connect with people and your surrounding to get rid of this situation asap.

[Hidden]

Welcome to the group.. 😊

[Isinatra]

When I was younger and in therapy, I did as you are doing with your therapist. I was more concerned that she liked me and didn’t open up to her as I should have. So I didn’t benefit fully . If I could redo that time, I would have told her what I was doing so she could have helped me settle down and she could hear what was inside of me. Give it a try.

[Shnookie]

Hi it’s Shnookie. Welcome to this web site. We are a warm and supportive group. U can freely express your thoughts and emotions here. I’m here 4 U.

Hugs 🤗 S

[samack]

Regarding use of humor I see when humor is used to block feelings. But I also think when getting into the nitty-gritty its important to maintain one's humor. I don't see why the therapist shouldn't employ humor too (when appropriate) keeping it real. Dark humor is hysterical to me. If I can laugh while depressed, I'm still alive. We all need someone we can trust with our real feelings. I'm sure you're ready for this.

[Manxiety]

Welcome, you took a big step by joining a community so there's a positive. I have been struggling on and off with anxiety / panic for years but it does always get better and there is a lot of different approaches. For some, therapy is sufficient and for others (like me) I rely on medication but it works and gets me to a much better place. I (like many others) don't like to be dependent on meds and so I always come off after a year or so and remain well for a period - sometimes a further 12 months but it relapses and I go back on.... I know I should just stay on them but...... anyway!I live in England and so healthcare is free and meds are almost free so I appreciate this isn't the same in other countries which may be a barrier for some - so unfair.

Wishing you happy and calm thoughts

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[Tara52]

Welcome! I hope you find some help & comfort here. I feel pretty isolated & there is always someone here that understands what I am going through. Keep checking in. Have a blessed day!. ( I love that Journey song!)

[Chico49]

Welcome. I’ve only been here a few weeks and can honestly say there are lovely people who will try to help

[Itzallgood1]

I'm the same way when I talk with doctors. I usually do the same by not telling what or how I really feel. Like when they ask to rate your symptoms, it's so hard to put a number on it. I can tolerate alot and so end up saying I basically feel better than I am. Frustrating. This is a very good group that's on here. Hope you get what you need on here.

[laura1964]

aha, your sense of humour to get through it all is like mine! no train going nowhere? don't stop believing!

[RupertBrown]

I heard a great comment about humor once, it may have come from Jon Stewart. You have to laugh at life, because the alternative, if you look too closely, is to just cry. Having said that, using humor as deflection is my go-to move as well. I often think of the song at the end of Monty Python's Life of Brian. If you're not familiar, see if you can find it on YouTube. Glad you found this site and hope it provides what you're looking for!