STRUGGLING

[Amelua]

Whose suffered, is suffering or has suffered from a bond that has/had you so bonded that even though you were struggling or in crisis by them, you loved that someone so much, that you just couldn't break away. What's the term for this?

[The_Color_Blue]

I think the answer to your question is dependent on extent to which you are speaking metaphorically. Sometimes we have a connection with someone - a bond - that can survive any circumstance. It may change in form over time, but there will always be connection there. This is often experienced by people who shared profound experiences together - and it can be a very healthy thing.

However, there are also codependent relationships or (what can sometimes be called) toxic attachments (which is an umbrella term referencing any number of attachment disorders). Both codependency and relationships in which there are attachment disorders tend to be very unhealthy and can lead to a number of overwhelming (and often very negative) feelings.

In sum, the name for what you're referencing will depend on the specifics of your relationship. In my life, I've experienced both types; the healthy and the unhealthy. It has been my experience that the latter is very dark tunnel and the struggle to find light can feel as though it deprives you of breath and will. But it's profoundly worth it to fight through. There is happiness, fulfillment, and genuine connection on the other side, the depths of which are unfathomable when you're in that dark place.