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Hope4321
Hope4321

Hi ..hope you’re all okay today. Im personally struggling with a lot . It’s physically hurting me too. My stomach is like a rollercoaster . . It’s hard to deal with because I’m in hospital due to my lung condition so I haven’t got my home comforts or privacy to go through this feeling.

I feel so sad and just don’t want to talk anymore 😢

I also am feeling sorry for myself a bit which is so stupid,I feel like i go above and beyond making sure everyone is okay but most people haven’t even noticed I’m ill in hospital because they never see how I am or anything...not even a text ‘hey how are you today?’ Meanwhile I won’t even sleep if I know someone is upset or not well

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Hidden
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I'm sorry to hear you are in the hospital. I hope you get better.

You are not stupid for caring about other people. It what makes you special. putting other need before your own. We hide it because we don't want them to feel sorry for us.

Hope4321
Hope4321 in reply to Hidden

Thank you so much you’re so sweet for replying with such kind words x

Get well soon ,I have a lung condition too so know how you feel 🌞

Thank you fellow lung pal!

💕

Hidden
Hidden

So sorry to hear you're in the hospital, I wish you a speedy recovery. I think us folks are way too hard on ourselves & yes we do extend ourselves to others. I'm at the point when I do for someone else I don't expect anything in return, I know what I'm doing is a good thing. I wish for you peace of mind. Love & Hugs!!!

Hope4321
Hope4321 in reply to Hidden

Thank you so much sometimes all I need are words from such lovely people on here and instantly makes me feel so much better x

Hidden
Hidden in reply to Hope4321

Hey I'm here for you, please know that! You're in my thoughts, I care about you. Love & Hugs!!!

💕 ❤️ 💗 💕 💐 🌸 🌺 💐

Hope4321
Hope4321 in reply to Starrlight

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I am sorry hope.....hospitals suck.....and you should feel sorry for yourself.... I think sometimes we don't allow other people to feel sorry for us because we are too busy making sure they are okay,...and don't want to burden them......but your the one in the hospital pal......you should be getting some attention from friends.

Sometimes we give friends the impression we are just 'Hunky Dory' because we refuse to complain or give them the impression we don't feel well....cause we don't want them to feel bad. So they don't feel sorry for you because they think your superwomen who can take it all on board.....HELLO!!!..... let people take some of the load, especially their own problems when your the one who is racked up in the hospital. If someone comes in and starts dumping all their problems on you....let them know your not really in a place to help them as your not doing well. a good friend would understand that. Let your friends take care of you, you deserve it....

Hope4321
Hope4321 in reply to fauxartist

Thank you so much x

how have you been? I’ve missed your advice x always appreciated x

fauxartist
fauxartist in reply to Hope4321

oh I'm hangin in there...got my own stuff goin on here at the homestead....But I'll get by....one way or another....I'll be okay.....

Hope4321
Hope4321 in reply to fauxartist

Aw I hope it’s nothing too bad x I will catch up on posts when i feel a little better x we will all get through this together won’t we

fauxartist
fauxartist in reply to Hope4321

the only thing you need to do is take care of you, and you getting better, everyone will be okay.....we have a great support group here....

Hope4321
Hope4321 in reply to fauxartist

Yes I’ve spent the last month or so just focusing on my physical health x I’m glad its not so hot anymore because hospitals are unbearable in the heat!

fauxartist
fauxartist in reply to Hope4321

why no air-conditioning?

Hope4321
Hope4321 in reply to fauxartist

No we don’t have them here thats why we struggle so much with heat . Are you from Uk?

fauxartist
fauxartist in reply to Hope4321

holy crap.....that's nuts.....Well....someone from the south in the US should be making a fortune in the UK selling air-conditioning units by now....it's considered manditory in So.Cal. in hospitals as so many elderly and COPD patients have a hard time breathing in the heat.

do you at least have a fan?

Hope4321
Hope4321 in reply to fauxartist

Oh trust me it’s awful and they’ll have 2-3 fans per ward and obviously give that to the ones who need it most... so I always avoid coming in the summer or I’ll bring my own fan

fauxartist
fauxartist in reply to Hope4321

just being there sucks....I'm glad you have us to talk to.....I like talking to you, your kind and caring.....but you also need to pace yourself....don't get warn out talking to us too....

Hope4321
Hope4321 in reply to fauxartist

To be honest I’m in isolation because I’m fragile and catch things easily... so I’m enjoying talking to people on here today... haven’t spoken to anyone but nurses and docs in three days lol. Was lovely to ring family and friends to catch up too

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Sadly, most people don’t have a caring nature like you do. Keep doing what you do because it’s the right thing to do and the right thing for you. I’m usually disappointed when my expectations of others are too high. I’m sorry that you’re in the hospital today...what’s going on with your lung condition? My breathing is not right today with shortness of breath and wheezing. Oh well! I hope for healing for you! Wishing you the best 🌷🙂🌷

Hope4321
Hope4321 in reply to Hidden

Hello Gratitude i hope you’re okay today? Maybe you need to go to docs for the breathing? Don’t wait for it to get worse X

I struggled a lot with my lungs through the heatwave we had in uk x and then I Caught a cold which becomes a full on infection for me .

Thank you so much for your caring words x

Hidden
Hidden in reply to Hope4321

I’m on my 2nd round of antibiotics, Clindamycin this time and I keep waiting for them to work. If I would totally quit smoking, I’m certain that it would help a great deal, but I have only cut way back. I have infected sinuses and haven’t had that in years. I’m having a time getting over it! My job is exhausting and I don’t think that helps either. I’ve been working some overtime because staffing is so low, but I’m not going to participate in that for the next couple of weeks. I am hopeful for healing for us both! Thinking of you...🌺🙂🌺

Hope4321
Hope4321 in reply to Hidden

Oh gosh I hope they work for you this time! I have sinuses too this time around it’s awful.

I’ve had it since i was born so thats 27 years x

I wish good health for you x

Hidden
Hidden in reply to Hope4321

You too!

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