It is on this day 2 years ago at 1.33am that my beloved partner succumbed to the cruel disease of Dementia.
He fought his battle well with all his might until all his fight deserted him,for we are but frail humans when fighting an invisible and cruel foe,it is the scourge of the 21st century where no one stands a chance of recovery.
To see and watch the decline of someone so vibrant,so educated,and so resourceful is something i hope i never witness again,for the grief that it inexplicitly brings to them, and the loved ones around them touches every aspect of our lives,and the feelings of helplessness in these situations leaves one distraught with unending grief,because the pain never goes away.
Very strangely,i woke at exactly 1.33am.
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So sorry 😐 for your loss. I’m a part-time caregiver for an old client of mine with advanced dementia. I know that it is a challenging situation. I’m here 4 U. Hugs 🤗 S
Certainly strange you woke at that exact time. These things do happen. Your connection is still strong, l suppose.Anniversaries are always evocative.
That Sunday back in April when my dad died I was out walking with my sister in law and a friend and about 11.30am I just felt unsettled and that something was wrong in myself and yes it was as around that time my father died and I found out about 12 what had happened.
I had been due to cook lunch that Sunday which was going to have been haggis and neeps and tatties but after that we cancelled lunch for that day as I was in no fit state after having heard the bad news.
Things always seem worse though just for the fact that it's Christmas like it was when David died.
How's the dogs getting on?
Baby is well and enjoyed her leftovers yesterday from our carvery lunch.
my fur babies are my salvation ...and so glad Baby is good, yes,frankly i have no interest in Christmas now,and never will,not that we ever were keen anyway.xx
So sorry. My Dad had early onset dementia and passed away when he was 59. A cruel, horrible disease. So painful for the people around you to watch the decline. I think you may have woken up at 1:33 for a reason. In my heart I believe your partner is with you, watching over you and trying to let you know everything is allright. Many hugs ❤
Lost my mother Dec 2, two years ago. She had Alzheimer's the last year of her life. Going through that and watching my father go through it, I wouldn't wish on my worst enemy. I'm sorry. My heart goes out to you.
Hi, I’m so sorry - my deepest sympathies on your loss. Dementia is so painful to watch (and of course to go thru for the person suffering). My dad has been going thru this for the past several years, most obviously in the last two. He is elderly, and we are so very grateful for his longevity, but you are right- nothing prepares you for the pain of seeing it happen. I see him fighting it still, but it seems less than before. I hope and pray that we can find a cure/treatment for this terrible illness. I am sure your familiar presence at your partner’s side was of enormous comfort to him, and also the reason he was motivated to fight it for so long. Take care.
Yes, we do feel helpless. I could never have imagined my dad to become diminished in this way. He is so intelligent, accomplished, talented, and was always extremely capable - the whole deal. Like your partner. He still has a strong life force and even in weakness, his humor/personality still comes thru, and we are grateful for that! I hope there are significant resources being channeled for a cure - so many families devastated by this. And it will only get worse with the aging population- I can’t even imagine. The current medications seem only marginally beneficial.
Im sorry for the grief you are going through. My mother passed from Alzheimers after a very long struggle. It was extremely hard to watch a loved one lose the ability to be present in life. Weeks after she died she visited me in my dreams when I could not shake the memories of her final days. She told me to not let the final days define her, that I should remember her when she was healthy. I thanked her for her visit. After that I made a conscious effort to refocus my memories and its helped.
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