When do you know you are ready to date?

[Rose23456]

Im 21 and i have not started dating. I'm unclear about my future and what are my capabilities. As of now, i feel incapable of raising kids so i dont know if/when ill be ready to raise a family. This prevents me from dating because most boys that are looking to get married know how many kids they want etc. I feel bad going on dates knowing that i wont be dating seriously and will be getting married shortly when the boy is looking for someone serious. However, i am looking for a guy who i can be best friends with for a long while before i make a committment. (Im serious in dating in the way that im not looking for a boy for a few days and then will say no to) i feel stuck. Any advice?

[Rick1on1]

At 21, you should be having loads of fun and have the marriage question way back in the back of your mind.

Do you have intimacy concerns?

[Rose23456 in reply to Rick1on1]

Thanks for your response!

[Hidden]

Well, I didn't have a serious boyfriend until I was 22. I think it all sort of depends on where and how you meet people. I'm now a 51 year old woman, I never had children, I was with a great guy for a long time where in a lot of ways it was like a marriage but I'm single again now and I feel like I need advice a lot of the time!!! A couple of self help books I've read that really have been helpful for me and might interest you are Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man by Steve Harvey, and the book He's Not That Into You. And on YouTube there's a woman, Susan Winter, who has a channel where she gives out relationship advice and I like her. And don't let any guy out there get you pregnant unless that's what you want!!!

[Rose23456 in reply to Hidden]

Thanks for your reply and the book suggestions!

[Blueruth]

Dump the assumptions and be open minded! Men are just as screwed up as you are 😂 Just kidding but it takes all kinds so just have fun.

[BesHelena]

I wasn't ready for serious relationships/marriage/kids when I was 21. And it's ok. You are young and have time for yourself. Just live a full life, have fun, and don't worry. When you find your true love you'll understand, believe me. It happened to me at 26. I met my husband on the Mobirfriends app besthookup.io/mobifriends-r... We have two children now, and I'm happy that I didn't hurry when I was younger.