Feeling complete despair

[Unsettled1]

Feeling so alone in this round of depression. People don't understand that it's not that easy to just make yourself feel better. Get out of your head, keep yourself busy, easier said than done. When you don't feel worthy or good about your life and you feel like total despair. I'm finding it very difficult to get out of this depressive state. Have zero interest in anything and basically force myself to do anything. I try to get up and get going but is so hard to stay the course. Exercise? I can barely function let alone workout. I do take long walks everyday but doesn't seem to help a lot. How do you work when you feel like this? So sorry for being such a downer. Looking for understanding,

[Charlisse]

I get it. I also spend a lot of time in that state. Everything is too overwhelming... we care. You're not alone in this. Try this... Do 1 set of easy stretches today. That is success! With all those feelings, to be able to do anything is success! Celebrate it. Yay you! And you can build on that. I'm rooting for you.

[samack]

you are well understood. I don't resonate with just find a hobby or do all these wellness activities when I'm so down. Hang in there.

[Catlover55]

I am right there with you. You are not alone. I'm on meds I was on for 20 years and increasing doesn't seem to be helping. I am trying to get into a psychiatrist, but no appts until December 21st. I am walking since that can help in the long term. I do a lot of deep breathing. I'm basically having to force myself to do anything. Please seek medical help. We will get better, but the process is difficult. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

[Unsettled1 in reply to Catlover55]

Thank you Catlover55,I so appreciate your feedback. I haven't replied sooner as I went in hospital for 10 days as I was so depressed. Life can be so difficult with this damned depression. I am fighting for my life and hope that I can pull myself up out of this depression. I am working hard at getting better but it is very difficult. I am progressing but it is work. I wish you a Merry Christmas and Happy New Year. Stay well and again thank you for your feedback.

[Catlover55 in reply to Unsettled1]

I hope your stay in the hospital gave you some good tools for your recovery! Keep sharing here, as we all understand. You will have better days as you progress through your healing. I have to remind myself to be patient with the process.

[Hidden]

I know how that feels. Even keeping busy, your mind is on sad things. I hug my dogs or kids if I feel this way. Even thought it only feels like it helps while actualltly hugging. Its something. I hope we both feel better soon.

[Jeff1943]

You will not feel like this forever, I assure you.

Depression is depletion, otherwise known as nervous exhaustion. Often we become depressed because we have so much to be anxious about. Depression and anxiety are close neighbours. If we deal with our anxieties, resolve our anxiety disorder, then the depression yields.

So many causes for anxiety and depression. Disappointment, loss, worry about those we care for most, guilt, money, toxic relationships, a job we hate, to name but some.

"There is no problem in the world that cannot be solved by the application of human thought." Yours are no exception. Happiness is always waiting to be discovered. Spring comes again, not only as season follows season but in our own lives too.

You will not feel like this forever, I assure you.

[Unsettled1 in reply to Jeff1943]

Hi Jeff1943I appreciate your feedback. I do tell myself that things will get better and I will feel better in the future. I love your explanation of depression is depletion. I am fighting the good fight and after 10 days in the BSU and 10 days home I am really trying to stay focused and work on all the things that have brought me to this depression. I hope that you have a fabulous Holiday Season. God Bless you and thank you again for the response.

[Obscured]

I'm really sorry you are going through this. I am in the same place and have been for a very long time. It feels like every hope and dream I had has become subservient to the crushing depression. If I had good advice, I would share it with you, but anything I might say at this point would be BS. Try to keep fighting for a better future for yourself. It might seem impossibly distant, but I think it's still worth searching for.

[Mrspjsmom]

Unless you have experienced depression it's almost impossible to understand. Well meaning comments can hurt terribly. But the people in this forum understand. We have been there and felt what you feel. For now lean on us and hopefully we can help. Ask any question and we will answer. Some of what has worked for us may help. Just remember you aren't alone. HUGS ❤

[endofheartache1290]

Depression zaps all the energy from us and leaves us in despair and rumination. People who have not experienced it do not understand that it's not just a bad mood. There is more happening. It could be poor thought processes we have developed over the years. It could be lack of self confidence. It could be that we are unhappy with where we are in life. It could be loneliness. We have to work at finding out what is the cause of our depression. Is it chemical, meaning do you have a condition such as bipolar or BPD? or is it situational. If it is situational you have to figure out what in particular is just draining you otherwise things will never change. It's like trying to stay at a job you hate just because you get paid. Sure you are making money but if it makes you that unhappy, that pain is only going to grow and fester and then start spilling over into other areas of your life. So begin working on understanding what is causing your depression so you can begin to tackle it. Remember that things don't change overnight and even when you do figure out what the problem is it will still take time to change your thoughts. So slow and be patient and kind to yourself. Depression isn't easy but healing is a lot like working out. At first it's nearly unbearable but the more you do it the easier it becomes until it doesn't cause you any issues anymore. As far as coping right now goes take time for self care, you need to remind yourself that you are still important. And do small things. Sometimes you can only take small steps in a day and that is okay. If just getting out of bed in the morning is a victory then take that victory and reward yourself for being able to do it. Feel free to message me any time if you would like to chat.

[KJnOTT]

I am so glad you reached out for support and am so sorry you are struggling. I am sure it can feel quite overwhelming - depression can be difficult to manage. I don't know your situation and what you are walking through, but it may be helpful to walk through some of these emotions with a counselor. I know an excellent resource that offers a free session with a licensed counselor who could help you with local resources' in your city. Feel free to reach out and I will send you the number. Take care of yourself during this time. Praying for peace, strength and love to surround you. Blessings.

[Hollick]

Please don't apologize, your only expressing your true feelings. I too, feel the same way, and am worried. Nothing interests me, I just want to spend the day in bed, which adds to loneliness, and in general, is very unhealthy. Saying prayers for both of us, its obvious the depression runs deep. I know that xmas coming, is adding to a lot of what I'm feeling this year, really dreading it!! Worse than ever..praying for both of us to feel better, please take care.

[Unsettled1 in reply to Hollick]

Thank you so much Hollick... I apologize for not returning your message but I spent 10 days in the BSU due to depression and since I've been out I have really been trying to pull myself up out of this horrible depression. I do appreciate you kind words and I am fighting. I hope you are doing well and would love to chat sometime. It feels good to know that people understand what I'm going through. If you haven't experienced it you can't really understand. Love and joy to you for the holiday season!