Should I be upset?

[BrownEyesBlue]

My brother is having a little something for my sister in laws birthday. He’s inviting my brother only as me and one of my sisters are not speaking. He said it wasn’t personal, he just didn’t want any tension at his home (which I understand) and if he invited myself and my other sister or vice versa and not the other, then he’d be creating bad feelings and he doesn’t want that.

I understand but I don’t. I didn’t start any of this yet I feel I suffer from the ramifications.

I dunno. Should I be upset?

[Blueruth]

Yes but not at your brother. I actually think you may want to thank him someday. His message is that you and your sister need to come to some sort of peace so that you can be in the same room. You do not have to be friends but your brother is asking you two to be cordial in his home. He is doing a kindness by being straight with you.

Note: I am not speaking to my brother so I get it. I will probably never have a relationship with him again because the only link is my mother and I'm not sure how long she will be around. He already lives in a different continent. So if you two can mend fences it will be good for you and your family.

[BrownEyesBlue in reply to Blueruth]

It’s not necessarily my sister; it’s her son and his gf. It’s just awkward. I appreciate your words and the message! Thank you.

[Midori]

I think it would probably be the most sensible thing, as he doesn't want a fight erupting at his house, and if he hasn't invited either of you then that is fair.

Maybe you should try to mend fences with your sister. It doesn't matter which of you is wrong, somebody needs to start the ball rolling for future family harmony.

Cheers, Midori

[BrownEyesBlue in reply to Midori]

I reached out to my sister; we are mending our relationship but I cannot be around my nephews girlfriend at all.