Its a inside job !

[gerrerd]

Take control !

[Dolphin14]

True when you reach that point. Not true when working through old messages and damage

❤️🐬

[gerrerd in reply to Dolphin14]

oki doki

[Dolphin14 in reply to gerrerd]

Well, abusive situations can do this to you. Young or old... the narcissist is one example of someone who can do a ton of damage. Thoughts?

[gerrerd in reply to Dolphin14]

Yes but its how we respond inside that it means, how we react to them is what he is talking about xx

[Dolphin14 in reply to gerrerd]

Yes I agree. With work we can def overcome. But it takes lots of work to get there. That is the end result. I'm just saying it misses a huge step in the healing process. I think it's important to remind people we just don't reach this point without working at it

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[gerrerd in reply to Dolphin14]

Yes true thats why I post, to keep people going forward and learning, taking ideas and info from them, even one little bit of advice can start a fire in their souls, thats why I post, trying to lift them up to were they belong xx

[Dolphin14 in reply to gerrerd]

Yes. Your post speaks to me because I've made it. I survived a narcissist and a few other things that beat me down because I did so much work.

I think I'm saying the same thing you say when I respond. I just feel the need to let people know how you get there

[Roxylox in reply to Dolphin14]

I thought I was nearly there. Yet when l heard a shop assistant who doesn't know me warning a person about me in a shop I was in yesterday l got set right back againI know the Narcissist manager spread awful rumours about me around town - a small town, bacause my son heard loads of them back.

That woman is such a convincing liar you wouldn't believe it. She wanted to throw the blame on me for the very shabby way l was treated, and for the fact that she only added to the mistreatment.

I know l posted over and over about this on here before, but she did such a sabotage job on my character that l don't think my reputation can ever be recovered.

I have done a lot of work at recovery, but am wondering will it ever be enough.

[Dolphin14 in reply to Roxylox]

😢..... it's so hard. That's why we all have to recognize we are all in different spots and this stuff takes time. The slightest thing can throw us backwards.

Don't give up. What I've found with all my work is when I have a set back I am able to pull myself up a bit quicker. I hear the wounds heal completely. But I question that myself.

For me just knowing the narcissist was at fault helps me rationalize better.

I'm so sorry for what has been done to you. No one deserves it.

❤️🐬

[Hidden in reply to Dolphin14]

It really is hard, I agree. The way I think about it is that you can’t have growth without some setbacks along the way. It surely isn't an instant fix. It can be a long and sometimes very crooked road to acceptance.

[Dolphin14 in reply to Hidden]

Yes, I agree. The wounds are deep through no fault of our own. There's guilt, shame, and so many other things that go with it. Each set back does make us stronger even though it hurts deeply.

❤️🐬

[Roxylox in reply to Dolphin14]

It is true, I can pull myself up from a setback a bit quicker now. Thanks Dolphin

[Hidden in reply to Roxylox]

It will be enough.... it is enough, Roxylox. 💗 You are enough, this is the truth, it really is. Posting about the incident is a great way to help yourself, so continue to post.

[Roxylox in reply to Hidden]

Thanks, Snowdaze

[gerrerd in reply to Roxylox]

You will leave the small minded people to themselves, its a reflection about them not you.

[Hidden]

this doctor.......no offense has never worked in real life........to say people cant depress u or hurt u...........no offense.......ok if ur super will power and super healed............hes entitled to his ivory tower platitudes...........we live in the real world..........so your boss cant hurt u? oh really ..hes a doctor........so u cant be sued falsely..........or wrongful dismissal............no offense doc..........but..........beatuful thoghts..........total nonsense

[Hidden in reply to Hidden]

my advce- stay away from toxic people and places........clearly this doctor has never worked for slime balls, or had to live in slimeball situtaitons or homes like foster kids esstentially........or abusive coaches or parents.............platitudes of why i dont use or respect too many doctors...................we havfe lived with the enemy just as much as women........then have to deal with these doctors who never get out of the hosp...........ive seen tons of people screwed by lawyers and all kinds of things..........just like a counselor who said its a safe world............oh yes..............inside ur bubble ............ever been out on the streets? nonsense...........stay awy from bubble heads and dangerous peole and toxic people..........they can and will hurt good people.

[gerrerd in reply to Hidden]

Dr Dyer was brought up in a childrens home, he had a abusive father also, was sued many times ! he helped millions to sort their mental health problems out ! and his work is still doing it !

[Hidden]

i was wrongfully dismissed from my usda job...........i have to live with that not my boss........put my whole life upside down..........doctors are ver very wrong.........beatuful throhhts like ............nothign is impossible.................oh dude.............what a jerk who says that to us.......

[Hidden]

nice platitudes despite his background.........now that he has a secure in come and job .......easy to make such statements.

how do u get a job withou resources, without a phone witout references even through u did a good job and consicensous...

etc etc etc

easy to make such comments when ur stituation is secure

what does he say about dealing with the police when ur homeless

about someone calling them........there is a man standing outside the rite aid

arrest that man officer he scares me

guys come home from the service are labeled autmaiticaly by the mhs .........

ifi it helps u fine

im not a fan- know its total nonsense

[gerrerd in reply to Hidden]

OK he just tried to help people see a different way. he died in 2015 aged75

[Hidden in reply to gerrerd]

look- i understand but..........like too much advice from Nami that will just get people fired........not realistic ...bad advice....

or peta

well intentioned hyperbolie or academia in some ivory tower world

doesnt work that way

i understand ur intetions..........but have had lots of people lead gulible people off the cliffs of dover like sheep and lemmings

to say that people cant hurt u is ludicrous.

just like ghadni non aggression..........ok fine.......how many monks are still alive in tibet after china got there? none

[Agora1]

"An inside job" how true, how true.Thanks wonderful man for your post xx