Dying inside

[Brex66]

Recent breakup with bf if 6 years is killing me. He doesn’t want a “sober” gf . I’m no fun apparently. Yes he is an alcoholic. Very high functional. Anyway my heart is broken. Everything we ever did , everywhere we ever went , songs, tv shows, I just can’t. I’m obsessing over this breakup. Suffering so much but in silence. I’m angry and sad. I don’t want to leave the house for fear of something reminding me of him. I just can’t deal with life right now

[Billsfriend]

Of course you're upset, losing a relationship of 6 years is a very big deal.

And we alcoholics are very charming and can be Very fun to be around.... until our disease progresses to the end game.

Dating is of course a process of learning not only about others, but learning about ourselves. As hard as it is to hear, you should be glad to have gotten out before any real damage is done. Consider what would have happened if you were married and had children.

I was and did, and I have to live with the regret of a broken marriage and the harm done to my precious Babies.

I have a video that has helped me to stop obsessing and to gain control of my mind, emotions and life. I hope you find it helpful!

youtu.be/REOdAWCv-BQ(Not working as expected?)

[Brex66 in reply to Billsfriend]

Thank you for responding. I know I proclaim sound like a child but I am actually 54. He is 53. So we already have grown children . My question to myself on a daily basis is, is that really why summertime would break up a relationship? We n never had issues until recently when I called him out about not remembering things he said and how he treated me when he was drunk. At the time I had moved out because of it. Then he moved me back in 6 months later. After 2 days of being back he got mad negative I wasn’t going to drink a lot on New Years. He said he didn’t want a sober gf. So serious. I had no choice in my mind but to leave. His ex wife died from alcoholism. I don’t understand if that was really his problem with me.

[Billsfriend in reply to Brex66]

Oh I see. That is a Horse of a Different Color! I had no idea you were married. I'll have to think on this

[Brex66 in reply to Billsfriend]

Sorry for the misunderstanding. We were never married. We have our own grown kids. I raised 5 kids alone and never went out or partied or even dated. Until they were grown. Then I met him. He was my first bf in 17 years or so. I just happened to find out he was an alcoholic recently. nieve I guess. He functions well with a good job. But after work and weekends it’s all about drinking. And now it seems like he’s going thru a midlife crisis. On FB am the time. New clothes. Drinking with his 27 year old nephew. I just need to know if that’s really a reason someone would give up a future with a good woman for. I cook clean do laundry bills. I’m old fashioned. I thought I was a good person. Now I doubt that.

[Brex66 in reply to Brex66]

And the ironic part is that my mother was an alcoholic but she got clean and sober when I was six. But they had us in alateen and aca since I was 12.

[Mifresita]

It sounds like he was toxic anyways you don’t need him. Every day it will get easier and easier. If he wanted to get better and be with you he would. He’s an adult he needs to come to the realization himself

[Brex66 in reply to Mifresita]

Thank you. I just need to get the obsessive thoughts out of my head and I can’t.

[Mifresita in reply to Brex66]

Try keeping yourself distracted. Do something creative! Painting or knitting or go thrifting and spray paint the item of clothing to make it how you like it. We forget to be creative sometimes but it’s really therapeutic

[Brex66 in reply to Mifresita]

Thank you. I appreviate your response

[Brex66 in reply to Brex66]

*appreciate

[Mifresita in reply to Brex66]

I appreciate you!!!