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So ladies... I wonder how many of you like men opening doors for you? I think.its only proper for a man to open a door for a woman at grocery stores, car doors, at work, at has stations or where ever. Do you like it or would you be independent and want to open your own door. Or even give you flowers. .πŸ€”πŸ€”πŸŒΉπŸŒΉ

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Hi Itzallgood1, I know what I like and know what I want and it is to betreated with respect for the woman that I am. Holding open a door as well

as occasional flowers (or chocolates) is just that extra touch.

For all the years that my parents were wed, my father always treated my mother

with respect. :) xx

P.S. I like the new name

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Itzallgood1 in reply to Agora1

Thank you. I like it too

I will hold a door for a man. I think it's a mutual respect. If I'm there first I hold it open for anyone and say have a nice day. Most guys will say " you first". I will say today is my turn.

As far as flowers, it's a nice gesture. At the same time it's nice to give something to a guy to show appreciation.

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Awesome. I like that. R-E-S-P-E-C-T.

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Mrspjsmom in reply to Dolphin14

I love it Dolpin. We all should show more respect and kindness. Especially in these sad crazy days.

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hypercat54 in reply to Dolphin14

I agree with you Dolphin. I always hold the door for others because I think it's polite and good manners. If a man says you first I say thanks with a quick smile. That's fine. What I do dislike is if a man makes an exaggerated big deal about it or tries to use it as a chat up line.

As for flowers - I don't know. It's nice but not from strangers. I would rather someone knew me better than that and bought me chocolate instead or something.

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Dolphin14 in reply to hypercat54

I didn't realize the flowers were coming from a stranger. Ok never mind I would think that quite odd. I don't want those flowers. If someone knew me I agree with you chocolate would be nice :)

I don't mind a little chat conversation at the door. Short and sweet.

Strangers would weird. No they'd be coming from someone you know.

Oh ok.... bring them on. But I like to give gifts more than receive.

What would you want?

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You can send me chocolate!!😁😁😁

Great pick!

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Sending by mail? πŸ˜‚

Hahah..... no I will swim it to you 🐬

I'll be watching for you.πŸ‘€

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Mrspjsmom in reply to Dolphin14

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Hello hypercat yes I agree,it's curly 1 here from.positive wellbeing just thought I'd say hi hope your well,I pref flowers to chocolates tho as watching my cholestrol otherwise not 😁I'm pixies mumπŸ€—πŸ˜Ί

Hi Curley I twigged who you were ages ago :) Nice to see you again. I am well thanks apart from sciatica which is so painful. Glad you and Pixie are well and your mum too of course. x

Hi thanks I've been back few times different names I'm like Madonna I guess keep reinventing myself πŸ˜‚no point leaving again I only come back I'm looking at full moon at nine hope you see it take care πŸ€—πŸ―πŸŒŒπŸŒŸ

I think I remember you. I was also under a different name and left. I missed it and came back.

I remember you

Agreed, Dolphin. Mutual respect is critical

Yes I like it!

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Itzallgood1 in reply to Josie670

I usually get smiles when I open the door and even wait an extra 5 seconds before they get there. There's no inconvenience at all. I prepared myself to stand there and I'm wasnt in a hurry.

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Josie670 in reply to Itzallgood1

I think it's very sweet and nice to know that there are still gentlemen that exist, makes me feel good and it's something so simple

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Itzallgood1 in reply to Josie670

It was the way I was brought up. Showing respect to everyone. But I figured the woman would love to be treated in that manner once in awhile. I've seen people open door and it slams in next person face. I have open one door somethi g only to see them open the next to let me go thru. I always thank them and they also say thank you back.

Most men who hold doors are say over 40, the younger ones do not have the manners or the inclination. My husband opens doors for all ladies, helps me off a bus. So do most of the elderly men in church.

You have a good man there.πŸ™‚

Love it!I was brought up in a time when such courtesy was commonplace.Along with the gentleman walking on the road side of a pavement. Helping me put my coat on .And holding out his hand to help me step up/ down etc . It makes me feel respected and cared for, not patronised. Although I was always taught to treat everyone with respect and I will hold doors open for others, let others go before me.

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Itzallgood1 in reply to MadBunny

I always thot that the man was protecting the woman by taking the outside route. I always respect the elder by even stepping off sidewalk to let them to by when we are going opposite ways.

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MadBunny in reply to Itzallgood1

Yes it is to protect her . I always respect the elderly too and will give up my seat on a train if someone needs it.

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Itzallgood1 in reply to MadBunny

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hypercat54 in reply to MadBunny

Before I used a stick I would give up my seat to anyone who had one or who was elderly and looked like they were struggling. That's just how I was brought up.

Now I use a stick I am very impressed as I have never had to stand up on a bus as someone always very quickly offers me a seat. I always make sure to thank them.

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MadBunny in reply to hypercat54

I often use a stick, but sadly I find that few people on the tube offer me a seat these days. And if they do it's usually younger men. If I see someone who looks as if they need it more than me, I will still give up my seat though. Like you that's how I was brought up. And yes I too always thank people for their kindness.

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hypercat54 in reply to MadBunny

Ha ha I wouldn't expect it on the tube though I was once offered a seat in living there 22 years. I nearly died of shock! I no longer live in London now though so don't use tubes.

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san_ray70 in reply to MadBunny

Thinking about it not long ago, I got on a bus with my stick and the young people moved from the front seat. I was very grateful, it does happen sometimes.

Shows respect.

You know where that came from don't you? In the old days in the UK there was no refuse collections or toilets so people would chuck it out of their upstairs windows. Because of the angle it would usually land on the outside of the pavement so men would walk there.

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MadBunny in reply to hypercat54

And was it also to protect ladies from being splashed by cars going through a puddleπŸ€”

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hypercat54 in reply to MadBunny

No refuse collections came well before cars!

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MadBunny in reply to hypercat54

True! I didn't know it went that far back πŸ‘

🎢R…E…S…P….E….C….T (sock it to me…..)🎢

Mutual respect is my bag. I never felt comfortable sitting in a car, watching my date stumble around the front (or the back) to get to my door while I’m twiddling my thumbs, looking up at the ceiling and wondering……what’s it all about, Alfie?πŸ€”πŸ˜‚

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Itzallgood1 in reply to Isinatra

πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚. I hadnt seen your answer of respect. I wrote it above.πŸ™‚. Usually the woman gets there own door when we get someplace but I usually get the door when we are getting in and going somewhere.

Yes indeed. How nice it is to be treated well by others. I did have sn incidence when a male friend from the Middle East came to visit me. He was raised in a culture with graciousness and generosity around treating women with respect. Guess what? It actually felt like it was too much. He'd run to do everything so I wouldn't have to; small things, opening doors, picking up bags, practically tripping over himself so I shouldn't do a thing. Literally. I felt suffocated. I think there's mutual respect, he wouldn't let me reciprocate, and made me feel dependent on him. BTW, we are friends, not lovers.πŸ˜‡

I agree with you. Sometimes it can be too much to do everything. Even tho I've seen a woman who enjoyed being spoiled rotten.πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚

Holding the door, a bouquet of flowers? Yes, this is lovely, Itzallgood1. πŸ’

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Itzallgood1 in reply to snowdaze

I'll send you some flowers then.🌹🌹🌹

Yes definitely, I’m very independent but I still like to be treated with the respect I think I deserve, also I think it’s an age thing, the youngsters today are so different in their outlook to life

I agree. I think the cellphone and care less attitude is all they care for. BUT I've met some outstanding youngster that are very good people. So I won't include them in the care less group. Ill give them respect back as they show me respect.

I agree, I don’t think it’s that they don’t care, it’s just their general attitude to life is so different now

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Hi it depends if the guy is being creepy or not. I am currently going through a situation where a guy who holds doors open for me has initiated physical contact with me, been trying to get information about me and wants to know when I am working each day.

Ok. I didn't even think of that. That might be frightening for any woman. I hope you have told him " not interested". If he persist I would get someone else (another male) if possible to walk with you to get him the hint. If not then I would tell him you'll report him to the police for unwanted attention. Be safe out there. You are under a difficult situation. i never dreamt if doing anything like that. Just a natural thing to do whether it's a woman or a guy to be civil to.

Hi and thanks. Well I'm married but the guy persists even though he knows I'm off limits. I've got personal safety alarms on me when I expect to bump into him

Good for you. Hope he stops pestering you.

I saw a reply but don't see it now. But yes ALWAYS for the disabled people no matter how young they are. They have feelings too. Discrimination has no place in my heart.

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Hb2003 in reply to Itzallgood1

I wholeheartedly agree πŸ™

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Itzallgood1 in reply to Hb2003

You have a kind heart anyways Hiba. I know you'll do anything for anyone.❀

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Hb2003 in reply to Itzallgood1

That’s true 😊

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Isinatra in reply to Hb2003

Sassy new avatar. Love it.

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Itzallgood1 in reply to Isinatra

I agree. She's been having some cute and sassy ones on here. A couple others have been changing theirs too.❀

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Isinatra in reply to Itzallgood1

I (think) Madbunny got me started back when.

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Itzallgood1 in reply to Isinatra

That's what we get from a mad bunny 😁😁😁

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Isinatra in reply to Itzallgood1

I’ll take the madness. Lol

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Itzallgood1 in reply to Isinatra

Me too. Anytime. πŸ™ƒπŸ™ƒπŸ™ƒ

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Isinatra in reply to Itzallgood1

Lol

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Hb2003 in reply to Isinatra

Thank you πŸ™

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Isinatra in reply to Hb2003

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Hb2003 in reply to Isinatra

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Itzallgood1 in reply to Hb2003

There's a lot of love in this group.🌹

Had another one that came thru my email that asked what made me ask this question. He said it never crossed his mind to hold door open when someone is behind him. Why I asked the questiin. I've seen too many time people are in a hurry or don't care. I just wonder how many would actually say they don't care. Also if any of the women on here get slighted when someone slams door in their face. Also I like conversations.

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Isinatra in reply to Itzallgood1

Having a door slammed in anybody’s face is not just a slight. It’s a very, loud message.

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Itzallgood1 in reply to Isinatra

To both parties. One needs to keep eyes open and other needs to open their eyes.

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Isinatra in reply to Itzallgood1

Clever….

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Itzallgood1 in reply to Isinatra

I guess I can be once in a while.πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚

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Isinatra in reply to Itzallgood1

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I do like that 😁 in return I open doors for other people as well

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Itzallgood1 in reply to Hb2003

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I love flowers and having the door held for me. It makes me feel seen and appreciated. I'm a bit older but I don't think most women get upset. They like being treated well. But I hold the door for others too. Often strangers. Men, women, a young parent struggling with a stroller. If I can help a bit I do. Many people are suprised and thank me. But if they simply smile that is even better. Treat everyone with kindness and your day will be better. I am impressed you are thoughtful enough to ask.

I'm happy to see you're proactive to this. I've seen many times people just let door shut on someone. I've had doors shut on me when I thot person was going to hold it open for me. Not a good way to start a day when you hit your head on a door. I love smiles. It shows they appreciate me for acknowledging them. I'll take smiles all day long. 🌹

The absolute best is when you hold a door for a young parent and one of their children rushes to hold the next door open for you. That truly warms my heart and makes my day.

I've had that too. It's amazing what one little act of goodness can do to inspire people to don a good deed as well. No matter what age.

I think it’s just polite to hold the door for the person behind you. Smile, β€œthank you,” and on my way.

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It makes me laugh when walking now. Because I have lung disease and use a stick I no longer get out of anyone's way unless they are in a worse state than me or have very young children. Most times they do but I had a young couple once when I was also carrying a heavy bag who just shouted abuse at me. I just said oh you expect me to jump out of your way then?

I do absolutely!πŸ˜ƒ

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Itzallgood1 in reply to Tara52

Some women just love getting flowers. No matter where they're from.🌻

It’s a nice gesture but I’m not going to be put out if they don’t.

I'm old fashion. I like it when a guy opens the door for me. However, when I was pregnant, I felt like guys were just doing it because they felt sorry for me. Also, after I was pregnant and I still needed to lose the baby weight, no guys opened the door for me. But once I lost the weight, they were opening the doors for me again. So it was an eye-opening experience. Something Rebel Wilson, the actress/comedian, recently mentioned. That people were all of the sudden so nice to her and opening doors for her after she lost weight. In any case, at any stage in my life, it was always nice to receive a kind gesture.

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Itzallgood1 in reply to LadyZen

I do it for ALL people. I try to make people's day by doing good deeds. Like I said I enjoy the smiles that come after doing it. Also.if you were living near me I would definitely open the door for you, ma'am!🌹

I personally like all those things, though I understand some ladies don't. Do whatever feels natural for you and your partner

I know some women are independent but I'll still do it anyways.

I think it's a good thing ☺️

Really, chivalry is dead. I really think women and men have lost all their morals. We serve the dollar bill not each other anymore. Just my thoughts.

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Itzallgood1 in reply to Cece321

I believe you're right on some degree. I went thru a drive thru restaurant one day and handed the cashier extra money to pay for part of all of their meal. Not looking for an "atta boy" but some people are good.

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