So ladies... I wonder how many of you like men opening doors for you? I think.its only proper for a man to open a door for a woman at grocery stores, car doors, at work, at has stations or where ever. Do you like it or would you be independent and want to open your own door. Or even give you flowers. .🤔🤔🌹🌹
Respect: So ladies... I wonder how many... - Anxiety and Depre...
Respect
93 Replies
•
Hi Itzallgood1, I know what I like and know what I want and it is to betreated with respect for the woman that I am. Holding open a door as well
as occasional flowers (or chocolates) is just that extra touch.
For all the years that my parents were wed, my father always treated my mother
with respect. 
xx
P.S. I like the new name
• in reply toAgora1
Thank you. I like it too
I will hold a door for a man. I think it's a mutual respect. If I'm there first I hold it open for anyone and say have a nice day. Most guys will say " you first". I will say today is my turn.
As far as flowers, it's a nice gesture. At the same time it's nice to give something to a guy to show appreciation.
🐬
• in reply toDolphin14
Awesome. I like that. R-E-S-P-E-C-T.
I love it Dolpin. We all should show more respect and kindness. Especially in these sad crazy days.
I agree with you Dolphin. I always hold the door for others because I think it's polite and good manners. If a man says you first I say thanks with a quick smile. That's fine. What I do dislike is if a man makes an exaggerated big deal about it or tries to use it as a chat up line.
As for flowers - I don't know. It's nice but not from strangers. I would rather someone knew me better than that and bought me chocolate instead or something.
I didn't realize the flowers were coming from a stranger. Ok never mind I would think that quite odd. I don't want those flowers. If someone knew me I agree with you chocolate would be nice
I don't mind a little chat conversation at the door. Short and sweet.
• in reply tohypercat54
Hello hypercat yes I agree,it's curly 1 here from.positive wellbeing just thought I'd say hi hope your well,I pref flowers to chocolates tho as watching my cholestrol otherwise not 😁I'm pixies mum🤗😺
hypercat54• in reply to
Hi Curley I twigged who you were ages ago Nice to see you again. I am well thanks apart from sciatica which is so painful. Glad you and Pixie are well and your mum too of course. x
• in reply tohypercat54
Hi thanks I've been back few times different names I'm like Madonna I guess keep reinventing myself 😂no point leaving again I only come back I'm looking at full moon at nine hope you see it take care 🤗🐯🌌🌟
• in reply to
I think I remember you. I was also under a different name and left. I missed it and came back.
Agreed, Dolphin. Mutual respect is critical
Yes I like it!
• in reply toJosie670
I usually get smiles when I open the door and even wait an extra 5 seconds before they get there. There's no inconvenience at all. I prepared myself to stand there and I'm wasnt in a hurry.
Josie670• in reply to
I think it's very sweet and nice to know that there are still gentlemen that exist, makes me feel good and it's something so simple
• in reply toJosie670
It was the way I was brought up. Showing respect to everyone. But I figured the woman would love to be treated in that manner once in awhile. I've seen people open door and it slams in next person face. I have open one door somethi g only to see them open the next to let me go thru. I always thank them and they also say thank you back.
Love it!I was brought up in a time when such courtesy was commonplace.Along with the gentleman walking on the road side of a pavement. Helping me put my coat on .And holding out his hand to help me step up/ down etc . It makes me feel respected and cared for, not patronised. Although I was always taught to treat everyone with respect and I will hold doors open for others, let others go before me.
• in reply toMadBunny
I always thot that the man was protecting the woman by taking the outside route. I always respect the elder by even stepping off sidewalk to let them to by when we are going opposite ways.
MadBunny• in reply to
Yes it is to protect her . I always respect the elderly too and will give up my seat on a train if someone needs it.
• in reply toMadBunny
💖💖💖
Before I used a stick I would give up my seat to anyone who had one or who was elderly and looked like they were struggling. That's just how I was brought up.
Now I use a stick I am very impressed as I have never had to stand up on a bus as someone always very quickly offers me a seat. I always make sure to thank them.
I often use a stick, but sadly I find that few people on the tube offer me a seat these days. And if they do it's usually younger men. If I see someone who looks as if they need it more than me, I will still give up my seat though. Like you that's how I was brought up. And yes I too always thank people for their kindness.
Ha ha I wouldn't expect it on the tube though I was once offered a seat in living there 22 years. I nearly died of shock! I no longer live in London now though so don't use tubes.
hypercat54• in reply to
You know where that came from don't you? In the old days in the UK there was no refuse collections or toilets so people would chuck it out of their upstairs windows. Because of the angle it would usually land on the outside of the pavement so men would walk there.
And was it also to protect ladies from being splashed by cars going through a puddle🤔
No refuse collections came well before cars!
True! I didn't know it went that far back 👍
🎶R…E…S…P….E….C….T (sock it to me…..)🎶
Mutual respect is my bag. I never felt comfortable sitting in a car, watching my date stumble around the front (or the back) to get to my door while I’m twiddling my thumbs, looking up at the ceiling and wondering……what’s it all about, Alfie?🤔😂
• in reply toIsinatra
😂😂😂. I hadnt seen your answer of respect. I wrote it above.🙂. Usually the woman gets there own door when we get someplace but I usually get the door when we are getting in and going somewhere.
Yes indeed. How nice it is to be treated well by others. I did have sn incidence when a male friend from the Middle East came to visit me. He was raised in a culture with graciousness and generosity around treating women with respect. Guess what? It actually felt like it was too much. He'd run to do everything so I wouldn't have to; small things, opening doors, picking up bags, practically tripping over himself so I shouldn't do a thing. Literally. I felt suffocated. I think there's mutual respect, he wouldn't let me reciprocate, and made me feel dependent on him. BTW, we are friends, not lovers.😇
I agree with you. Sometimes it can be too much to do everything. Even tho I've seen a woman who enjoyed being spoiled rotten.😂😂😂
Holding the door, a bouquet of flowers? Yes, this is lovely, Itzallgood1. 💐
• in reply to
I'll send you some flowers then.🌹🌹🌹
Yes definitely, I’m very independent but I still like to be treated with the respect I think I deserve, also I think it’s an age thing, the youngsters today are so different in their outlook to life
• in reply toArymretep
I agree. I think the cellphone and care less attitude is all they care for. BUT I've met some outstanding youngster that are very good people. So I won't include them in the care less group. Ill give them respect back as they show me respect.
Hi it depends if the guy is being creepy or not. I am currently going through a situation where a guy who holds doors open for me has initiated physical contact with me, been trying to get information about me and wants to know when I am working each day.
• in reply toAngelPink
Ok. I didn't even think of that. That might be frightening for any woman. I hope you have told him " not interested". If he persist I would get someone else (another male) if possible to walk with you to get him the hint. If not then I would tell him you'll report him to the police for unwanted attention. Be safe out there. You are under a difficult situation. i never dreamt if doing anything like that. Just a natural thing to do whether it's a woman or a guy to be civil to.
I saw a reply but don't see it now. But yes ALWAYS for the disabled people no matter how young they are. They have feelings too. Discrimination has no place in my heart.
Hb2003• in reply to
I wholeheartedly agree 🙏
Had another one that came thru my email that asked what made me ask this question. He said it never crossed his mind to hold door open when someone is behind him. Why I asked the questiin. I've seen too many time people are in a hurry or don't care. I just wonder how many would actually say they don't care. Also if any of the women on here get slighted when someone slams door in their face. Also I like conversations.
Isinatra• in reply to
Having a door slammed in anybody’s face is not just a slight. It’s a very, loud message.
I love flowers and having the door held for me. It makes me feel seen and appreciated. I'm a bit older but I don't think most women get upset. They like being treated well. But I hold the door for others too. Often strangers. Men, women, a young parent struggling with a stroller. If I can help a bit I do. Many people are suprised and thank me. But if they simply smile that is even better. Treat everyone with kindness and your day will be better. I am impressed you are thoughtful enough to ask.
• in reply toMrspjsmom
I'm happy to see you're proactive to this. I've seen many times people just let door shut on someone. I've had doors shut on me when I thot person was going to hold it open for me. Not a good way to start a day when you hit your head on a door. I love smiles. It shows they appreciate me for acknowledging them. I'll take smiles all day long. 🌹
Mrspjsmom• in reply to
The absolute best is when you hold a door for a young parent and one of their children rushes to hold the next door open for you. That truly warms my heart and makes my day.
• in reply toMrspjsmom
I've had that too. It's amazing what one little act of goodness can do to inspire people to don a good deed as well. No matter what age.
I think it’s just polite to hold the door for the person behind you. Smile, “thank you,” and on my way.
• in reply toqueenetta
❤❤❤
It makes me laugh when walking now. Because I have lung disease and use a stick I no longer get out of anyone's way unless they are in a worse state than me or have very young children. Most times they do but I had a young couple once when I was also carrying a heavy bag who just shouted abuse at me. I just said oh you expect me to jump out of your way then?
I do absolutely!😃
• in reply toTara52
Some women just love getting flowers. No matter where they're from.🌻
It’s a nice gesture but I’m not going to be put out if they don’t.
I'm old fashion. I like it when a guy opens the door for me. However, when I was pregnant, I felt like guys were just doing it because they felt sorry for me. Also, after I was pregnant and I still needed to lose the baby weight, no guys opened the door for me. But once I lost the weight, they were opening the doors for me again. So it was an eye-opening experience. Something Rebel Wilson, the actress/comedian, recently mentioned. That people were all of the sudden so nice to her and opening doors for her after she lost weight. In any case, at any stage in my life, it was always nice to receive a kind gesture.
• in reply toLadyZen
I do it for ALL people. I try to make people's day by doing good deeds. Like I said I enjoy the smiles that come after doing it. Also.if you were living near me I would definitely open the door for you, ma'am!🌹
I personally like all those things, though I understand some ladies don't. Do whatever feels natural for you and your partner
• in reply toquickblizzard
I know some women are independent but I'll still do it anyways.
quickblizzard• in reply to
I think it's a good thing ☺️
I believe you're right on some degree. I went thru a drive thru restaurant one day and handed the cashier extra money to pay for part of all of their meal. Not looking for an "atta boy" but some people are good.
Not what you're looking for?
You may also like...
Trapped in an elevator
Hey guys. Anyone else experience that?
The elevator did not open the doors at my floor. Instead...
My mom doesn't respect me
Mom doesn't respect me at all and is drinking more and more. I was playing a videogame, a single...
Respect your energetic needs
The fact is, not everyone you meet is on the same level as you. Some people have an energy that...
Dont get me wrong, I'm thankful for the job that I have now, been there 5 years. But I'm tired of it. Want something different, more growth.
I hate that I get so nervous doing job interviews smh 😐 ... Had one last week .. no call back yet...
I did it!!!
I sat through the emotions of powerlessness that victim mentality gave me. I got up and tried...
Related Posts
Good manners will always take you where money wont go.
What's left to do??
Positive mindset... helps us all so much!
Help...Moderation team
ADAATeamRachelPartner
ADAATeamLisePartner
