Fear of rejection

[Boomer67]

I am in relationship with a wonderful woman. But, I am afraid my anxiety, depression and fear of rejection will ruin it.

[Hidden]

You should trust her and share this side of you and let relationship grow with acceptance that this is who you are. She will help you through this and anything hopefully. Trust that this is the right person for you

[Boomer67 in reply to Hidden]

Take a look at my reply to Agora1. It was a reply to both of you.

[Agora1]

Boomer, this wonderful woman chose you above anyone else.Don't allow your emotional issues get in the way of what you both have.

As "Foggy123" said share this side of you. When we find the right person

we accept who they are.

Take a look on YouTube for Affirmations...they can help bring your self esteem

back. Love yourself just the way you are. You are an incredible person xx

[Boomer67 in reply to Agora1]

I appreciate the advice from you and Foggy. Whst you say makes sense. After one of the conflicts caused by my insecurity she said she needed a strong man who was sure of himself. If I take your advice it has to be said in a way that does not show weakness. Maybe I should tell her my story without mentioning the affect it had on me. What do you think?

[Potter123 in reply to Boomer67]

I would encourage you to be honest wit how it affected you. I understand the fear you have of coming across as "weak," but a man or woman or whomever who can share their feelings honestly and calmly is strong, not weak.

[Boomer67 in reply to Potter123]

I understand what you are saying. But, I feel that I need to wait until the relationship stabilizes before I can get into any of this with her. I am still not sure about discussing the effect it had on me. One thing I have gotten from all of you is that I need to stop being scared and trust her and the relationship. I need to stop worrying that she will leave me everytime there is any problem.

[lisa40509 in reply to Boomer67]

I just saw this and if she thinks your weak start going to the gym! Feelings are not weakness! That takes maturity and responsibility and a real man or woman who seeks help to improve themselves!

[BlueW7]

Focus on your beautiful self, and also open up to her about this side but in all be kind to yourself you deserve to be loved and happy don't have be scared of the future, enjoy what you have now.

[lisa40509]

Please tell her how you are feeling. See if you can start sharing some affirmations with each other that bring you closer rather make you feel distant. Then stand up to that beast of anxiety and depression, get good and mad and let it know you will NOT let it steal anything else from your life!! You deserve happiness!!

[Boomer67 in reply to lisa40509]

I want to thank you all for your help. I came to the realization that she will not abandon me just because of a few problems. I have learned to trust her love. As a result, I no longer fear thst she will leave me. I no longer panic when there is a problem. The relationship is much healthier.

[lisa40509 in reply to Boomer67]

I’m so happy to hear this!! You deserve happiness and security!!