I feel invisible

[lunar_cycled]

Sometimes I wonder if people even see me when I go out. My whole life I've had very pretty friends, and I guess I'm just, not. I'm so tired of going out and having to watch them get attention, get compliments, get hit on, while I'm lucky to get a hello out of a stranger. I've never gotten this attention like my friends have, when I talk about this and how I feel like I'm just ugly they always say I'm not, my bf says I'm gorgeous, but it's hard to believe when I go out and I'm treated like dirt. Like I'm just a shadow, I think to myself that a person like me couldn't be pretty, bc if I was, why aren't I being treated like I am? Why? I don't know what makes me so repulsive. Just a vent, but I'm feeling so alone and invisible.

[Mrspjsmom]

I feel invisible around my family. Always have. But I have learned that everyone is beautiful in their own way. Many of us are beautiful inside and the world can be so superficial. So let your inner beauty shine and when people ignore you it's their loss. HUGS ❤

[Hidden]

Hello

You are not alone and invisible we hear you

When you have anxiety and depression it takes your confidence and gives you low self esteem , it robs you of so much and we focus on the negative things we feel and not the positives

Sometimes people will sense this and take advantage but you have to try and believe in yourself and then others will see that to and realise this girl is not for been putting down

You are beautiful , learn to love yourself ( not always easy ) and this will shine through and make others show you the respect you deserve x

[Itzallgood1]

I use to think that way but im happy with who I am now. As long as i had my friends I was fine. My friends support and care for me and that's all I need.

[Midori]

Your BF says you are gorgeous; Who else matters? I think I see a bit of anxiety here and lack of confidence. Be You, not a carbon copy of someone else.

I would suggest that you try to become more outgoing, be more of a personality, rather than worrying about looking around trying to match up to other people. I'll be willing to bet your friends are trying to match up to you as well. Everybody has this little anxious thought that they aren't as attractive as everyone else; Little secret, This is how Plastic Surgeons make their money! On people's insecurity about their looks!

As folk have more Plastic surgery they don't stop to think how they will look in 10, 20, 30, years, and by then it shows, badly. There are some real horror stories walking around America these days.

Makeup can do wonders, and the best thing is, you can take it off and have a completely new face tomorrow!

You have a supportive BF who loves you. That is your starting point. discuss things with him.

[Itzallgood1 in reply to Midori]

Yes correct. BF is the starting point. After that why does it matter outside of family?

[lovetodance2018]

I am sorry you have been feeling that way. You have a had a lot of good suggestions in these posts. Learning to love yourself is key and telling yourself positive things about yourself. I struggle with depression and it is the depression talking and not you. You are beautiful, you do matter, and you were created in God's image, which makes you unique and wonderful.

I do a lot of positive self-talk when my depression starts telling me otherwise. It is a battle. These techniques seem to help me with my self-image and how I feel about myself. I hope you find them useful too.

1) Healing comes from the inside out. It starts with letting go of the things of the past, forgiving and changing our focus and behavior. Becoming aware of what you need through self-care and personal nourishment. Take time for yourself - you are worth it. Like taking walks, baths, massages, mani/pedi/, listening to uplifting music/sermons and anything that makes you feel refreshed and renewed.

2) The 557 breathing technique is take 5 deep breaths in while thinking good thoughts about yourself like I am beautiful, I am special, I am strong and then hold the breaths for the count of 7 focusing on those words about yourself, then let out the breath slowly for 5 seconds letting go of any anxious, self-defeating, unhealthy thoughts. I do this one to three times a sitting.

3)The gratitude journal is writing down something good every morning and night something that went well in the day, or something I appreciate about myself. Taking our focus off of the anxiety and depression and focusing on positive uplifting things really helps. What you think is what you believe. So thinking uplifting things you believe those things but the reverse is true - thinking negative self-defeating things, you will believe those.

4) Emotional Freedom Tapping - bit.ly/3AVYNiX You use pressure points to tap on those points while you repeat positive uplifting things to yourself.)

I will be praying for you. Feel free to pm me if you'd like to chat. Hugs and God Bless

[lovetodance2018]

How are you doing? I have been praying for you. Hugs

[lunar_cycled in reply to lovetodance2018]

Hi love! I've definitely been improving, not quite at the place I want to be, but trying my best not to place the validation of my beauty on strangers. Your comment really helped, thank you for praying for me, I'm seeking therapy at the moment and I hope that that will also really help me on this journey as well as the community I have here, thank you 🥺

[lovetodance2018 in reply to lunar_cycled]

I am glad you are on the healing journey and that you are in therapy. Just know you can reach out here anytime. Also, if you ever need to chat feel free to pm me. Hugs

[lisa40509]

Anxiety and depression instill that fear in yourself that you are not enough. It’s robbing you of allowing you to explore who you are. Weather you do therapy, or meds with your family doctor start writing a list of things you can try and do. The more you do the more your confidence will grow. Volunteer. Even if it’s only an hour a month. That is the best boost to your self. Learn to get comfortable in your own skin. Wear your clothes, makeup and hair in the way that feels the best to you. Try some Yoga to meditate. Try a modeling class so that you can learn to walk and show self confidence (you don’t have to want to be a model for just one class!) Best thing I did when I was 17 was took a class with a friend and learned the runway walk. Always smile a lot even if you’re faking it and laugh!! I see you!! They will too but I bet you’re hiding!