Two years ago I was dating someone who went through a really rough patch of grief and they emotionally checked out of the relationship. I only found that out by confronting them about after I stopped communicating for 2 weeks and they didnāt bother communicating either. During his grievingā¦I became depressed and full of anxiety, which is what caused me to stop reaching out. I couldnāt take the emotional torment any longer. I swore Iād never take on anyoneās sadness like that again.
Well I am in a new relationship and have been for one year and itās had its challenges but all in all itās been good. But he now has a similar situation. Dealing with a close dying relative. He has shut down completely and I am reminded of my past relationship. Iām not in the pain I was beforeā¦because I refuse. But how do I keep attracting these emotionally immature people????
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Grief can cause people to shut down. They may be too sad to talk about it. My husband died, and I found that no one wanted to talk about it. I think people feel that if they bring it up it will make you feel worse or will remind you of it (as if you could forget). I would let your boyfriend know that he can talk to you about it whenever he wants to, but I wouldn't push him to talk. Just let him know you are available to talk and that you understand.
Both. He used to be really in shape. Then covid happened, his grandmother took ill and he brought her into his home to care for her. When we were allowed back in the gyms, he started going and he was feeling amazing. It seems like when her health took a turn, his did too. Heās no longer in shape, heās having blood pressure issues, he sleeps a lot. But I was able to make him come out and see me and go on dates. It seemed to make him feel better at the time. Last week he had the blood pressure incident and it scared him. Then she had a doctors appt a few days later. He told me he was expecting bad news from her doctor. That was the last time we talked. He stopped responding.
Thank you for clarifying. I'm usually the one who shuts down first and the longest. I shut down like he's doing until I feel like I can handle the situation. At this point, I think all you can do is wait.
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