Overwhelmed

[Mrspjsmom]

Lately I feel completely overwhelmed by life. The crazy weather, Covid and the attitude of others. Things I enjoy have become difficult. The vegetables and flowers I planted haven't fared well because of all the rain we've had. If it's not raining it's so hot and humid I don't enjoy being outside taking care of them. I used to take yoga classes and do mosaic projects but both places closed in the beginning of the pandemic. When they reopened the hours were limited and the cost increased so I wasn't able to go back. I hate going into a store now. No matter where I go there's always a few rude, nasty customers I can't seem to avoid. All of it is too much. I am overwhelmed and trying to figure out how to do the things I need to do. Just needed to vent to others who might understand.

[awesomemom]

I've become a hermit since Covid. I do like being in my backyard where it is very private and wooded. I just got a 6-yr-old dog three weeks ago, and I feel better having her with my small dog and myself. Maybe you should try getting a pet.

[Hildi in reply to awesomemom]

That’s so great to hear your adopted another pet! I also love just hangin at home with my bubs or out in the yard.

[Mrspjsmom in reply to awesomemom]

I love hanging out with my dog and cat. I really love sitting outside on the deck. There are woods behind my house so it's peaceful. On the deck I have wind chimes, a fountain, a meditating gnome and now a propane fire pit. Have been asking for one for years. I think I finally wore my husband down. But the weather has kept me inside so much this summer. And it's raining again today.

[Hidden in reply to awesomemom]

We have a very spoilt ginger tabby called Baby who is 17 who we have had since she was a kitten!

[Mrspjsmom in reply to Hidden]

How wonderful! I just bought a pair of leggings that say "Cats are my favorite people". My Oliver was a stray. And our dog Molly was rescued from a shelter. Pets bring so much love and joy into our Ives. An added plus is my toxic mother in law is allergic to cats so she never stays long. 🤣

[Roxylox]

Having been to a family occasion recently, unfortunately I see how claustrophobic being in the company of others for too long can become. People( sometimes especially family) can be petty7

This occasion has left me feeling even less like mixing with people than I did before.Just made me more anxious to only interact with my husband , my adult children and my dog.

I suppose that sounds pretty sad.

Like you I hate going to the store too. What you say about the attitudes of others really resonates with me.

[Mrspjsmom in reply to Roxylox]

Doesn't sound sad at all. I feel the same way. We are simply taking care of ourselves.

[Roxylox]

From reading your posts, l believe your poor treatment comes from in-laws. My own comes from my extended family and sometimes a sibling. When my mother- in- law lived with us she could be controlling and hurtful too. I know friends of mine had worse ones though!

I think most of us can get irritated by being in close proximity to family for too long though. The recent occasion was a three night stay - too long!!

[Mrspjsmom in reply to Roxylox]

My poor treatment does come mostly from my in-laws and my sister who I no longer have contact with. My therapist has advised me to avoid my in-laws too. Without sharing much more the things they have said and done to me have left my therapist speechless. So I navigate the best I can while trying not to upset my husband and children.

[Roxylox in reply to Mrspjsmom]

That's a tough situation, and of course it is essential for your own good to avoid people who are so toxic to you.

Your therapist sounds supportive. I hope you are doing well at the moment. I am having my first Zoom with an organisation who meet weekly on Zoom this Thursday.

Am feeling a little nervous, but looking forward to it too.

[Mrspjsmom in reply to Roxylox]

I will be thinking of you. I hope your Zoom meeting goes well and the group is helpful.

[Roxylox]

Thanks Mrspjsmom

[JkBauer]

Good afternoon Mrspjmom,I am so sorry to hear how overwhelmed that you have been feeling. Life certainly has been quite a bit crazier since covid has hit. One thing that I have learned since we have become more of an isolated world is; what can I do to help others out? It certainly has been hot out this summer, but now it seems like fall is hitting the air and the leaves are starting to turn yellow. What a great time to get out and see if some friends would like to go for a walk or take the kids to the park. Maybe you like to bike ride or do you enjoy baking? Maybe you can start a cookie business up for the upcoming holidays?...

[Mrspjsmom]

Thank you for the suggestions. I love to bake and as soon as the weather cools off a bit I will start. I bake different breads and have some small bread pans. I make mini loaves and share with friends, neighbors and family. I will make some cranberry bread and Amish Friendship bread first. I have to space things out since my husband is diabetic. If there are sweets in the house he eats them. Also hoping to go apple picking. I have a wonderful crock pot applesauce recipe. Right now I try to take advantage of the cooler days and cook ahead several dinners at a time. I always make extra for my daughter who lives alone, my friend who has a colostomy and another friend who broke her ankle in May and is still recovering after her second surgery.

[JkBauer in reply to Mrspjsmom]

Wow, you are my kind of lady, lol! I love baked goods way too much, lol! It sounds like you are a great baker. Your family and friends are fortunate to have a wonderful wife, mother, and friend who does such a great job of caring for them. All kinds of your breads and goodies and meals sound delicious! - Remember that you are loved by your family and friends. They are the ones who are important- their love, peace and joy, and faith will make you a more strong and confident person. God bless you! I will pray for you and your family and friend is struggling.