Just a Sunday Rant

Ugh, I feel so lonely today even with people near me. Just feel alone.

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It’s just the people near me just bring up problems that need to be dealt with and it drains all of my energy and makes me feel alone.

[propjock in reply to Hidden]

Do you really need to deal with these problems, or are the other people saying that you need to deal with them?

Say more about “feeling alone.” Is it about not being able to express thoughts and feelings? Or is it more of a sense of being misunderstood?

[Hidden in reply to propjock]

Family problems. More important kids that need to be helped. So it’s not something I can avoid. I helped raise my niece and nephew. I’m a people pleaser and sometimes I wish I didn’t feel all alone. I wish somebody thought of my feelings and had my back too.

[Roxylox in reply to Hidden]

Very often feel like that Knitter

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I need to deal with problems because others aren’t doing it. I just wish I knew what it felt like to be in reciprocal relationships.

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The kids aren’t my problem. It’s all the adults surrounding them that are. They let me know what problems I need to solve.

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Or I find out at the last minute what problems the adults have avoided in dealing with.

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Sorry this sounds very general. It’s just I have a hard time getting out my feelings because of emotional abuse.

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Hopefully I can cry today so I can get some of those feelings out. Hopefully

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It’s just a listen to Radiohead day

[mrmonk in reply to Hidden]

Any particular Radiohead songs?

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High and Dry, Fake plastic trees, no surprises and in a second Karma police.

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Are you a Radiohead fan

[mrmonk in reply to Hidden]

I wouldn't say I'm a fan...I'm familiar with some of the more well-known songs. I often listen to some of the tracks on OK Computer when I'm feeling unmoored. I especially like "Let Down."

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Let Down is a great song. I will probably listen to that one also.

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Music is sort of my way of calming myself down when nothing else is working.

[mrmonk in reply to Hidden]

Yeah, I find music to be therapeutic, too.

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By the way , I like your screen name. I used to and still do love that show.

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Also using this site and sometimes Instagram to scream out into the void if needed.

[nutterbutter4]

Knitter -

I understand this— I’m the strong one that keeps everyone together but when I’m not strong (cause we can’t be 24/7, we’re just human) no one can around me can handle it and it can leave you feeling really isolated.

It may be helpful for you to set some healthy boundaries with those surrounding you. You’ll have to tailor the boundaries to each person & what your triggers are — which takes some self exploration & acceptance. By acceptance I mean accepting that those around you likely aren’t going to change their negative tendencies but that you can change your relationship with them without inheriting their problems — this worked for me at least.

& make sure that you take a break from taking care of everyone around you so that you can take care of yourself!

I’m sorry that you’re struggling but it gets better — I wish you all the best!

[Hidden in reply to nutterbutter4]

Thank you. I really appreciate that.