I just by passed by and overheard one of my coworker telling another that she does not like me

[Jubmay]

That really hurt me

[kenster1]

sorry that you heard that I`d be taking aside and politely asking them what the issues are as far you know you`ve done nothing to warrant this.

[Jubmay in reply to kenster1]

Thanks for responding.But how can I go about asking her that.

If you have ever been in such situation can you please tell me how did it.

And did the relationship latter worked out

[kenster1 in reply to Jubmay]

I actually had a problem with my boss he got the wrong end of the stick one day when I was on the phone to the hospital as my dad was an inpatient.my boss thought I`d been on the phone to a friend started shouting at me and I lost the plot in return our relationship was a bit frosty after that but he respected my hard work I respected him one day we spoke about it and I realised we actually where more alike when he was younger.don`t be scared to speak up boss colleague anyone if in your heart of hearts you`ve done nothing wrong you`ve every right to ask.

[Jubmay]

Thanks for responding.But how can I go about asking her that.

If you have ever been in such situation can you please tell me how did it.

And did the relationship latter worked out

[Rafiki11 in reply to Jubmay]

I wouldn’t try to win over someone who doesn’t like you. It’s her loss.

Focus your attention on the people who already like you.

[Isinatra in reply to Rafiki11]

👍🏼

[hypercat54]

Yes it does hurt doesn't it? I think we have all had it at some time or another. When I was working I thought I got along fine with this co worker until she got nasty with me. After that I ignored her completely and acted as though she didn't exist. I was very polite if I had to speak to her but very distant. She started talking to me again and all she ever got out of me in future was a supercillious smile. Snotty cow she was!

It depends if you have to work closely with this person. If so you can either ask her or be polite but distant with her. If not then to be honest I wouldn't bother with her at all. She doesn't mean anything to you after all and you can't like or be liked by everyone.

[Rafiki11 in reply to hypercat54]

Yes! Polite, smiley, and distant. That’s the key to surviving unpleasant people.

[hypercat54 in reply to Rafiki11]

Oh yes definitely. Long experience honed over the years! 😁

[hypercat54]

Another experience I had was when a colleague used to bum ciggies off me in the smoking room (it was around 18 years ago). One day he said to me he had heard that my hairdressers had burnt down. I didn't twig for a minute then realised he was trying to say my hair looked a mess.

Anyway the next evening loads of us met up outside work including him. I walked into the pub and he tried asking me for a ciggie again. I looked at him and said 'Sorry haven't got any as my tobacconist burnt down'. He went 'Huh' looking blank. So I said 'Well it was next door to my hairdressers which burnt down'. The look on his face was a picture and he never tried bumming a cig ever again. 😁 Sweet revenge!

[Rafiki11 in reply to hypercat54]

🤣🤣🤣

[Hidden in reply to hypercat54]

Touché!! Good for you!! 😂❤️😘xx

[hypercat54 in reply to Hidden]

Ha ha. For once I got a good one in. 😁

[Zara0123 in reply to hypercat54]

😂😂😂 Great answer

[hypercat54 in reply to Zara0123]

Thanks. 😁😁 x

[Rafiki11]

I’m so sorry. That’s a painful thing to hear.

However, I have to confess that I vent to my BFF about our coworkers that I don’t like.

Not everyone will like you. That’s okay.

I LOVE mangos. My husband hates them. That doesn’t mean that mangos become bad when my husband declares his dislike. They just aren’t a good fit for his senses.

You are still a perfectly good imperfect person. You just don’t jive with that person. That’s okay. She’s probably annoying anyway.

[hypercat54 in reply to Rafiki11]

Love it! 😁

[WhiteGreyhound]

First of all, I am sorry that happened to you. When things like that happen to me it can be so difficult for me to put it behind me and stop thinking about it. That being said, rather than trying to come up with the right thing to say to this person, or trying to figure out why he or she feels this way about you, I would kind of consider is this person even worth your time and effort ? A person who is that uncouth as to verbally express this opinion out loud to someone else at work is extremely unclassy and not really worth your time or energy. You can basically pretend like you know, but it doesn’t bother you one bit , which will drive this person bonkers.

[Jubmay in reply to WhiteGreyhound]

I love that

[Catsamaze ADAA Volunteer]

There is one person that needs to like you and that’s you. Don’t give this coworker any power over you. I’ve had a similar experience and focused way too much on that person instead of thinking about all the friends I have. Put your focus there .

[FOF9303]

I am so sorry you had to hear that. I always said keep your friends close and your enemies closer. Kill them with kindess. Let your beauty shine through. Don't let this weigh you down!