How do I cope from Rejection from Family and Friends

[Nerds]

For the past year I’ve gotten to see most of my families true colors. People who I thought would always be by my side have back stabbed me and abandoned me and rejected me. Someone who I thought was a close friend abandoned me when I was at my lowest and because of all of this I now have trust issues . I no longer want to be around family that have let me down and or certain friends. I was a very socialable person but no longer have interest in mingling or making friends with anyone. I’ve learn to keeo my guard up and don’t even want hugs from so call friends or anyone. I just got fired from my job of 5 years and wrongfully terminated because I was not able to bend over backwards for them and work 7 days a week. They expected me to work on my days off but yet closed our department for the last 3 months so I had no choice but to collect unemployment and then applied for other jobs. I got a perdiem position and because of it I was not available to work my part time job on my days off so I was fired without a cause. All if this has caused me to shut down and I no longer want to be around anyone including my own children and husband. So how do I deal with this when I feel everyone has let me down and been rejected and abandoned.

[lewis1]

You certainly have a lot to cope with and everything seems to point you away from people and family , it appears that every issue is driving you to become a loner, eventually losing confidence and having no hope for the future.I have been lucky and write/chat with a person using this site who is prepared to listen firsy and not judging, being impartial to my own problems. Does not always have the answer but it is good to talk issue's out, do not let it fester Family and friendships can always be regaind if you really want to. Sorry I am going on a bit but wish you luck, Bill

[Saki-Amamiya]

My best friend/partner cheated on me a few months ago. I didn't see it coming and I was in a terrible place. Things like this are so raw and overwhelming when they first happen, but it just takes time I'm afraid. There are some good people out there though. I know trusting others can be difficult after what's happened to you, but not everyone is like that. People kept trying to convince me of that and I've found it to be true; you just need to find the right ones.RE your job - I don't know the whole story, but it sounds like unfair dismissal? Have you looked into any possible action you could take?✌️

[leaningonjesus]

the biological family you grew up with does not have to be the same family you have as an adult

my suggestion is(if you havent), try to find ways to get around people and try to make some good close friends. try to find even a few people you can become friends with, or close with.

i too have been rejected/ abandoned by my biological family of birth, and it took me over 15 years to get past it. took alot of hard work- forgiveness, prayer, the lords work in my life and a great church family.

prayers out to you today.

[Catsamaze ADAA Volunteer]

Your anger is so understandable. The people that have let you down have hurt you. The problem is that your anger, however justified, is hurting you…not them. They’re going on with their lives. The best way to fight back is to get on with yours. Finding a job is a big enough burden without the energy expended by resenting them.

Folding up your life and making your world smaller will only lead to more misery that you don’t deserve and you can’t afford. Don’t reject yourself. I’ve not offered answers because I don’t have any. But sometimes starting by figuring out what you DON’T want to do is valuable in its own rite.

[TruckersWife4life]

So sorry that you are going through this. I have been on the same boat as long as I can remember and I'm 51 now. I was considered the black sheep because I thought for myself. I don't have really any close friends either because of trust issues, I had two best friends that I was really close to and the first time I started to be upfront and told them both the truth when they would ask for my opinion. So I just have acquaintances because I'm afraid of being put down for my opinion. for me I have gotten all the toxic people out of my life and maybe I'm alone but I don't have the drama anymore and feel way better. Hang in there and keep your chin up.

[HisDaughter]

I am very sorry! Others have had similar experiences with their families. I had to get therapy for years and used to struggle with social phobia too because some relationships with family members were not emotionally healthy. I am sorry too that you got fired! There are so many bad things that happen in this life but it is not a good thing to isolate yourself or close your doors to everyone. I believe that a therapist could help a lot because sometimes we need some professional guidance. It is hard to hurt so much inside and not want to trust people who have been so hurtful! But the last thing we need in life is to harm ourselves by doing things that mostly harm ourselves. I hope that you will consider meeting with a counselor so that you are able to find out what would be healthy and productive for you. I am sorry that many bad things have happened to you! God bless you a lot!

[cbgrace1980]

This past year certainly has pushed everyone to their limits. I'm sorry you've been having such a rough time. You are not alone. But you can get to the other side of this. Have you thought about talking with a counselor? I did and it was really super helpful for me. I encourage you to try this if you can. We are here for you anytime you need to vent. People certainly can let us down, but there are good people out there that will build us up, too.