Feeling guilty.. all the time

[clovergreen1207]

I'm sorry....Does anyone ever have an overwhelming guilt for just about everything? I have a habit of always apologizing to people for the most mundane things... repeatedly.... I hate letting people down. So much so I sacrifice my own feelings and emotions. I have trouble making decisions. It's so bad.. I want to be able to consider and understand everyone's opinion on something, to be as open minded and considerate as possible. But sometimes I wonder..can I even make an informed decision on my own.... why am I so indecisive... why am I always apologetic.

[Hidden]

Hi This may have something to do with the way you were brought up, look back and see if you were made or expected to feel over-responsible for everything.I felt as if I was born with what I called Original Guilt, feeling guilty that I was born so can understand your position.

I think you'll have to work out why you are in this position, however just to say that Guilt is a very real feeling but not necessarily true. Check out the definition and see if you have done anything wrong....or is it your feelings about this?

[Broken1971]

You described me to a T. I think this is rooted in how my parents raised me, my catholic upbringing and my ocd. It's a recipe for disaster. I found a lot of help with DBT (dialectical behavior therapy).

[Hidden]

This describes someone who lived in a situation of control.Being conditioned to feel inferior whenever you did something that was actually worthy.Co-dependency starts to creep in without you realising you are the victim.

My parents were narcissistic....and made me feel unworthy many times a day as a child.I ended up seeking approval at every turn.

The day i realised this i stood up to my father and left home...but as i left ...my selfworth remained damaged and followed with me as i moved on.

Learn to say no...be in control of your energy....be in control of your power...be in control of you.

If you meet someone who is an energy vampire, who makes you feel inferior and never nutures the relationship between you... at an equal give and take...you will start to apologise because of your early training..once you start realise the trait that conditioned you....change it stand in your space...hold on to your power.

I realise I made this sound simple to achieve....it depends if you can let go of the past.....Letting go is part of the healing.

Un learning a childhood trait in later years takes determination effort often making you feel a failure....reinforcing that lack of self esteem.

Put a note on you mirror..."I am worthy" i seek not to be well known...but worthy of knowing.It sounds like you are worthy of knowing.

Apologise if you make a mistake...but if someone trys to belittle your opinion

..or make you feel inferior.....change it to "I am sorry you feel this way...make them aware you are not responsible for their feelings....nor their mistakes.

Get some advice on cognitive behaviour training....undo this ...live free.

[Rizo1]

Hi clover. I'm exactly the same. I've always been the same. Can't say no to people. So then you get out apon all the time. Always feel like I've done something Wrong. Can't make decisions at all. Worse now I'm older. I get myself into such a state worrying all the time. I'm sorry its happening to you. You're not alone on this xxx