I have so much to live for but don’t wanna be here. Every night I pray that I will wake up feeling just a tiny bit better and every day gets worse. The anxiety every day is consuming me.
Everyone is excited about Xmas, I don’t give a dam. I’ve always taken pride in my home, now I struggle to keep it clean. I can’t work due to it being so bad throughout the day.
I have family with me but feel so alone... there has to be more to life than this.
Do you have any cool favorite music? Play some music when you clean. And only think about the words in the songs and the feeling. Boogie down to it with the mop. Shake your butt a bit. I bet you’ll laugh.
Whiskers 16. Hope you have a better day when you wakeup. It’s dark. But. There is light. Somewhere. Find it.
I’m not really a music person I really wish I was as I’m sure it would help.I’m in the uk so it’s daytime here.
Your right I do need to find it even if it’s only a little glimmer.
Thank you
Maybe it’s because you never discovered you interest in style of music.
But can always put on background noise like tv ahha
I know how you feel. Anxiety does get better though. I understand it’s very difficult to see light at the end of the tunnel when you’ve been stuck in the darkness for so long. You have to do things for yourself that will help you through your anxiety.
You’re definitely not alone in your struggles.
I agree with u I feel same way I’ve been thru trauma that won’t go away and no matter how much I try I do everything they say listen music podcast help centres nothing makes me feel better nothing takes pain away I don’t even see Christmas as a day to celebrate I just see it as a day to put on fake smiles for family who don’t even care to realize I’m not okay I’m tired of livingMake everyone else happy enough is enough I am fed up and stressed out and it’s ok be that way it’s ok not feel like celebrating it’s ok to want cry but what’s not okay is letting that sadness take over ur life take back ur power
Your right and that’s what I’ve allowed it to do, or what I’ve allowed someone to do to me.I need to be stronger.
Loss and disappointment are major causes of high anxiety so the way you feel is perfectly understandable.
Your life is changing, it is time to cast off the old ways and embrace the new and exciting life that is beckoning you.
You are free to make new friends, enjoy your own kind of holidays, cultivate new interests and pursuits by joining clubs and associations. A new chapter in your life is just beginning, welcome it whole-heartedly, do not let the new opportunities for building a happier life slip through your fingers because you refuse to recognise them.
You have gained wisdom and experience at your time in life which you must now put to good purpose. Do not spend your time yearning for the past, the future has so much more to offer you.
As you make progress and you feel the excitement of new ways your anxiety and low feeling will recede.
Trouble is Jeff he’s still here
That's a situation that can't go on for long, the presence must be adding to your anxiety. Unless you think a reconciliation is possible or desirable.Once you've made your decision on this last point and you see no future in it, it would be helpful to talk to a solicitor and get his or her advice on options and logistics. Things will improve with time and your anxiety will subside I assure you, Whiskers.
This was the reconciliation after being apart for a year but he can’t deal with my anxiety which has been caused by him. My life is such a mess
Whiskers16, you have nothing to reproach yourself with, remember that. They say time is the great healer they say or more time may bring you to a different conclusion.
I still think a talk with a solicitor to know your rights in this situation is information worth having.
I may well have suggested to you before that Claire Weekes' first book "Self help for your nerves" will bring you understanding, reassurance and recovery. Available on Amazon or Ebay new or used. Life changing.
At least you know the cause of your anxiety. I repeat, it is perfectly natural for you to feel the way you do. Remember always: you are guilt of nothing.
I’ve just bought it on my kindle will give it a go.I went to a solicitor when he left last year so know my rights, in a word no rights as not married.
I need to get well enough to get back to work.
Thank you for your support
You are right, once you are fighting fit and have recovered your quiet mind you will be more able to move forward. Do not be put off by the fact that the book was written many years ago: Professor of Psychology and Psychiatry David Barlow of Boston University reckons her method has helped 2 million people to recover. As you read it you get the feeling that Weekes knows you personally: in a way she does - she was a Doctor who experienced anxiety disorder herself and devised her Acceptance method to cure herself. Then spent the rest of her life advocating it through books, consultations, TV appearances snd newsletters. Her recent biography is titled 'Claire Weeks: the woman who cracked the anxiety code".
Of course, reading the book does not provide a cure, putting what you read into practice does. It is hard but not as hard as putting up with high anxiety every day. Good luck and best wishes.
Jeff when she talks about the floating, am I supposed to sit and think about the symptom while it happening ?
You can accept whilst you sit but floating is for people who feel they haven't got the confidence or energy to walk down the street or do a job of work: it involves imagining that some unseen force is carrying you down the street or through your daily work. It's mainly for people who have agoraphobia or have lost the confidence to go places. It's a manoeuvre I never felt the need for personally. What I took from her method as most important of all is Acceptance: the ability to disarm anxiety and the symptoms of anxiety by accepting them (for the moment) rather than fighting them which causes more tension and stress. This leads to the release of more fear hormones which keep the nervous system in a permanent state of over sensitivity. Deny your sensitised nerves the fear on which they feed and they will eventually revert to normal sensitivity and anxiety and its symptoms fade like mist in the morning sun.
anyone feel guilty about their depression? 
I feel guilty 
Tired of Anxiety and feeling Guilty.. 
Feeling guilty for avoidance
TRIGGER i feel guilty because I want to die
