Going through negative thoughts...

[desiredswirl]

I been seeing my bf for 4 months and in the beginning we would talk daily & see each other on the weekends, he knows I suffer from depression anxiety ptsd and I’m bipolar. He knows what I been thru ... I’ve always wanted a great relationship with someone and thought this was finally my turn to experience it. This past week his true colors came out... he has told me that I’m psycho he says each week hanging out is too much we Skyped every night to see each other during the work weeks since he lives in Pennsylvania and I’m in jersey. Not he’s saying he feels like I’m smothering him, he told me he never wants marriage ever I can’t call him and talk as long as I want he wants it quick he doesn’t want to tell me when he’s done work he feels like he has to check in and it’s too much for him he says when he gets gone from work he wants to go online and read articles and educate himself that’s what he use to do and now he can’t do it. Before we live together he says he wants me to have better credit so now credit is a issue when I told him why my credit isn’t 700 like his ... I’m a reseller and make money he wants the money to be more consistent my fault in telling him everything about me cause now he’s taking everything and throwing it back in my face I can’t even ask him how much a car is that he was looking at he goes nuts and says I’m trying to know how much money is in his bank account he’s going bat shit crazy this week and this has take a toll on me I’m 33 years old I’m tired of dating I want to settle down but it’s disappointing that I keep getting in bad relationships ! I want kids and it seems like it’s never gonna happen... he wants a baby we have been trying but He only seems to be nice if he hears from me that I could be pregnant I have to take a test he gets all sweet cause if I’m pregnant with his baby he takes that serious but when I find out I’m not he goes back to being a asshole idk what changed its like we were best friends now I have to sit back and make appointments when to talk to him or hangout no there’s no other girl he just loves being by himself and he loves just doing guy stuff he watches sports literally 24/7 maybe if I do give him his space he will come around and start to miss me again and it’s sad I want to be pregnant also cause I always wanted to be a mom but then again that person I fell inlove with will come back to me... anyways I need more girl friends to talk to I’m on Instagram as desiredswirl please follow me and dm me to talk I need friends badly

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You say you want kids, and that he “never wants marriage ever.” Those two things in combination generally don’t end well. If he isn’t committed enough to marry you, who’s to say he’s committed enough to be a father? I don’t imagine you want to raise kids on your own. I don’t know him though, and I don’t know what he’ll do. I just wanted to bring that up for you to consider. Having a family is the most important decision you will ever make, and the fact that he doesn’t ever want to get married is concerning. How often do unmarried people have kids and settle down together for their whole lives? I think there’s a reason why that doesn’t happen much, if it even happens at all. I don’t mean to sound negative, I just want you to take careful consideration of the consequences that could arise. Are you willing to take the risk?

Please be careful, consider the risks, and ensure this is something you truly want, and something he wants as well. Family takes love and commitment, and from what you’ve said it appears that he lacks both. Again, I don’t know him, but I am concerned nonetheless.

Take care

[desiredswirl]

Thank you so much I will have to rethink a lot it seems this is very emotional for me but thanks I needed others to help me with the decision

[desiredswirl]

I have thought about it but knowing that I will maybe be alone doing it that Foster care may not want that

[b1b1b1]

If he doesn't want to marry you, you should consider moving on. Additionally, although I hesitate to say this, it does feel like you may want more closeness than he is ready for. Wanting him to check in after work and Skype every night may make him feel pressured. Everyone needs space. Are you using him in part to meet your own emotional needs. This can make the other person feel that there are too many demands on them.

I would consider therapy. Further, depending on your financial situation, it is now very easy for single women to have a baby through artificial insemination. There is no longer any stigma attached. For a long time I did not think I would ever marry, and this is always what I planned to do.

[desiredswirl in reply to b1b1b1]

He thinks it’s checking in and it’s not the case I just like knowing when he’s done he said he loved to Skype and said it but this well after months he’s like he doesn’t like it he’s so flip flop with everything and it’s emotional rollercoaster for me I dnt know what to believe but all this is fixable I said I will give him his space and hopefully he begins to miss me and come around with the feelings hell he said he loved me first lol so

[b1b1b1 in reply to desiredswirl]

Try to find other interests and people while you are sorting out this relationship.❤️❤️