My first post. Joined a couple of months ago, but my depression kept me from logging on. Today is the first day I've tried maneuvering through this site. It seems difficult to see more than a day or two of the Feed. Guess I need to poke around more and see what else I can see.
Anyway, I'm here to find like minded people and make the all elusive human connection.
Been a loner and self isolator since I was very young. I've been working on all this pretty intensely for about a year. I found a weekly support group (virtual for now) that helps a great deal, but I feel I need more connections to keep me stable.
Anyone have advice on how best to make those human connections here in this community? I've been doing self-talk trying to get myself to reply to posts here. Took me months to convince myself to give this community a try. Wanting to run away from you all now as I write, but pushing through with the hope that this place might work for me.
I've been through lots of treatment in the last year. Placed on a Hold several times. Intensive Out Patient programs. Prehospitalization programs. And finally a Residential program for six weeks. Personal therapy twice a week for most of the last year. On leave away from work for 7 months.
All this, and I still find it very difficult to make human connections. Hoping this can be a source.
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Welcome!! We are a friendly bunch here. I can relate to the feeling of isolation in this past year and how it didn't help anyone with pre existing mental disorders. I hope the therapy is helping you get back into conversations with others and interacting with them. Do you have any outside connections with family or a friend? It is hard getting back into a routine and stuff after an intense outpatient or inpatient hospitalization. Did they link you to any services other than doctor or therapist? I hope you do stay and post when you need us. Good luck and gentle hugs 🤗🤗
Your response made me tear up and gave me the courage to think about getting out of my apartment. I haven't done grooming in about 4 weeks or more. Think I will do that today and go grocery shopping.
My current connections with friends and family are pretty limited. I've actually started talking with a few people from my past. Family is difficult. The friends I've made over the last ten years have been not very good for me. Pretty shallow and can't handle conversations like this one.
Thank you so much for reaching out to me. You've made my day, fearoffear
Hello, I’m glad you’re here and I can relate to what you’ve said. At the moment I’m feeling like I want to get cleaned up and go grocery shopping but by the time 5pm rolls around and I’m done working (work from home) my energy level will have dropped. When I’m depressed I definitely self isolate and so over the last 10 years or so I’ve managed to remove all my friends from my life. I’m sad about that because I wish I had a friend in my life. I wish I could redo my life and not let depression and anxiety destroy everything. This forum always makes me feel so much better. I find that when I’m really depressed and I come on here I have a much better day. Everyone is very kind and helpful in my opinion. Take care and have fun grocery shopping!
RecreateMyself And I am very glad this forum provides you comfort in your loneliness. I too separated from most all of my friends about 15 years ago due to an abusive relationship I was in.However, about 5 months ago I made human connections my goal and that is when I reconnected with two old friends. I am so glad I did. I don't live near either of them, so we talk on the phone regularly. We scheduled it - once a month for one and every other week for the other. It's on my calendar with reminders.
They are deep connections where I feel heard and understood after speaking to each of them.
Scheduling people into my life has been very effective for me. It might be worth a try for you, as well. My goal is to schedule at least two people each week. Most are not the deep human connection I crave, but they are connections and they are good people.
Maybe you have old friends you want to reconnect with. I was fortunate enough to have two people.
I never made it to the grocery store yesterday, but I don't consider it a fail. Just a bump in the road. Maybe this afternoon.
Hi NoHoWarrior, It takes but one person who understands and can relate to your pain in allowing you to not feel alone on this path. You took an important step forward today by
coming on this amazing support site. It's going to be okay. You are with friends now.
Indeed. You saying it aloud made me feel so much better. Also made me cry. Very vulnerable today... probably because I made my first post here. Thank you, Agora1 for making me feel welcome.
Yes, welcome. It's morning where I am and that was a lovely post and thread to read first thing :-). Your description of needing to poke around this forum (or site) made me laugh - it takes a while to get used to. It strikes me more and more how living our lives through screens and typing is something that takes a while to learn. It doesn't make meeting new people easier (well it makes it too easy in many ways ironically). I used to like it as an extra way to message people, but a few decades on it seems to be the only way most people interact.
You write like you put a lot of pressure on yourself, but from where I'm reading you write very well, and that was a corker of a first post!
Don't worry if you don't get the response you hoped for, keep trying, and if people don't reply to posts or replies, try not to take it personally (as I do when I really hoped for a connection). Or people appear or disappear. I post very rarely, maybe for similar reasons, but will always reply when I can.
You're doing really well and it was lovely to meet you virtually
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