It's the dismissal, the being left behind like I never mattered that hurts

[JAFOman]

I use to mean something to her. Now I'm just an after thought, not worth but a single text. She means more to me than I realized and I wish I meant as much to her. This is why I don't feel like I'm worth anything. If I was it would take more than a few days to drop me to this level.

[Hb2003]

Your worth something 😄 let me tell you a lot of people care about you just because she didn’t reply to you doesn’t mean that your not worth anything

[Hidden]

I understand the feeling. But that doesn't make you worthless it make you hurt, there is a difference. I don't know if you are referring to a breakup or not but regardless the fact remains your feelings are real to you. It doesn't matter if it's real for the other person they are real for you and you are allowed to be sad that you don't mean as much to someone else. It's heartbreaking when we open up and be vulnerable and that is how we are treated. I recently got out a toxic relationship and i said the same things to myself. Why couldn't she see I was hurting? Why did I not matter? Why did I mean nothing to her? But those are all her issues. The love I felt, that was real for me. The care I had was real for me. So I need to process and grieve and that is okay because I truly loved someone regardless of if they loved me. I know it hurts and it will take time to heal but feeling sad is okay and remember above all you are a human and humans are allowed to feel and be hurt. Take care of yourself right now friend. Self love and compassion are your friends and you are worthy of them.

[Hidden]

Sorry, you are going through this. I don't think you should say you are worthless bcz of someone who does not hold you in high esteem. It will pain bcz we don't choose who we love but sometimes we need to be on our minds side than be on the hearts side. Being on the hearts side can cause us to be realy hurt by people who don't love us as much as we love them. I sympathize with you but please don't dwell too much on someone who is not worth it. My motto is, 'don't cry for someone who makes you cry it doesn't make sense even though the heart does not listen to sense'.

[JAFOman in reply to Hidden]

I appreciate your advice it makes sense and could help. The problem I have is your assumption that she isn't worth it, that you judge her for how she feels. Are her feeling any less valid than mine? Please remember when giving sound, and again good advice be sure not to give it at the expense of another person.

[Hidden in reply to JAFOman]

Hey there Jafoman

Sorry if I hurt you Jafoman. I thought u said she hurt you by how she is no longer texting you. I was just trying to support you and not dwell on being hurt by someone whom I thought was not into it anymore but at the end of the day, your feelings matter to me. I did not want to make her sound like a bad person. My heart was just on your side only, maybe I should also be on her side. Sorry again