I once again lost an online friend of mine because he was apparently receiving so much toxicity on the app I'm on. I can't just live in a world where everyone is just good because life is just crap. We can't just be civilized anymore because of this excuse of a reality I have to live in. Everyone just freaking leaves because no one gives a crap about anybody because that is how most of society is. My mom says I can't tell people how to live they lives, well it seems to be the only way that people can get in check in this damn world....
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Once Again Got Left Behind, Everyone Just Freaking Leaves
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Someone you only know online or is it someone you know off line too?
melvincrews2021 in reply to
Someone I known online for so long...
in reply to melvincrews2021
You class them as a real friend even though you have never been with them?
melvincrews2021 in reply to
Don't freaking start....yes I do...
in reply to melvincrews2021
Dont start what?
melvincrews2021 in reply to
Don't start the whole "Oh those people online aren't your real friends" bs that my mom started...
in reply to melvincrews2021
Maybe its true...you just have to accept it.
melvincrews2021 in reply to
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You are very young...one day you’ll realize how people operate in this world. You’re mom is correct.
It seems people leave because you come across even here as ‘all or nothing’, telling people what and how should they should live, behave, etc. This will leave you isolated and alone in the end. Embrace our differences, judge less.
melvincrews2021 in reply to
When you find out that potential friend of yours does drugs or have a literal grandfather going through addiction...exactly how in the heck do you expect me to embrace that mess....?
in reply to melvincrews2021
You stated life is crap, unable to be civilized, so my response was to that. Change your attitude you’ll see the world in a different perspective.
About your friend, don’t judge him/her, offer to support. Offer to help. You embrace he/shes different, we all have struggles, if you are a true loving friend to this person you don’t judge, you support them.
melvincrews2021 in reply to
I tried to help him but he freaking refused just like everyone else I was friends with online who had the same dang problem....
in reply to melvincrews2021
He doesn’t want you to dictate how he should be living. In your last thread I think it was alcohol if I remember regarding another friend...
If you cannot handle how a person lives or behaves in their lives, stop trying to befriend them, stay away from people that use substances, this seems to be a pet peeve you have. Find like minded individuals like yourself. Wishing the best.
A acquaintance of mine smoked pot a lot. When I asked her why she said she was a single parent with 3 young children living in a tower block. I understood and knew why she needed a crutch to cope with a very difficult life.
I don't think we can judge anyone until we have walked a mile in their shoes. An old saying but a very true one.
First off life is gonna be difficult regardless of how much your practically leans on that terrible mess....second off that crap isn't a crutch if anything it's broken one...
Everybody has the right to go to hell in their own way without judgement.
That is like so messed up in so many ways coming from you...
Then again what the heck should I expect from such an f'ed up reality..
No. I am a lot older than you and it's based on my own experiences. I'm sure you won't be able to understand that but hopefully when you are older... Take care.
You can't tell people how to live their lives. You only have control of your own.
Yeah yeah I freaking get it...even if you're only just trying to help somebody it counts as controlling...even if the situation you're trying to help them with will pretty much save there lives and prevent any risks from happening.....Jesus freaking Christ...
No need to get upset. It's the truth. You can bang your head against a wall to help people and they are going to do what they want. I've been there in my personal life and my career.
It's great you are trying. But your efforts may fall on deaf ears
No freaking s**t
Good we are on the same page Hope you have a good day
in reply to melvincrews2021
Im just being honest in that if I struggled with substance abuse and I came across you basically forcing advice on me then I wouldnt want it either. People need compassion and care. Not judgementalness. I can honestly see why you lose friends.
melvincrews2021 in reply to
First off me worrying about my friends health and crap isn't judgemental and second off if you gonna be like that, then don't comment on my s**t
in reply to melvincrews2021
True worrying about other's health isnt judgemental. But your atitude shows you are judgemental and lack the neccessary gentleness and approachableness people need. You called people generally 'trash' and 'garbage' in your profile and you stopped talking to a friend because he didnt give up a substance. Going round defining people as good or bad and giving out ultimatums is pretty judgemental.
in reply to melvincrews2021
Wherever you go you are going to find people with problems, people who are hurting, people who feel the need to take comfort in things. Youre right that this shouldnt be the way it is. But it is. People are suffering just as much as you, but maybe in a different way to you. All that your reaction reveals is that you lack important qualities that others may need. You lack understanding of other's situations and the gentleness to get people to trust you. Next time you meet someone with a problem you dont like then why dont you try get to know why they are the way they are, what led them to make the decisions they do. Empathy and sypmpathy are some of the most beautiful qualities a person can develop. Developing it will help you not to feel so alone as you will understand we as humans are very similar in how we feel. And having genuine feeling for others may also help others have the strength to fight their demons.
melvincrews2021 in reply to
I do have sympathy for my friend why the heck else would I try help and cry for him for and no I don't understand anyone who does s**t like this or why it even exist in the first place...but I do be feeling bad for those people that they even gotten themselves into s**t like that in the first place...at the same time though I can't stand seeing anyone do s**t like that much less be around them when they do because it'll always remind me of my granddad, who also gotten himself into stuff like that...
in reply to melvincrews2021
Im sorry about what you went through that with your granddad. That must be hard and bring up emotional pain for you. I can understand why it would be hard for you to be around people who remind you of all that
melvincrews2021 in reply to
Yeah...and I will admit I may be a little judgemental but that's only because of what I went through so far in my 17 years of lifetime and sure not all people are generally bad....but from what I experienced most of them are and it's hard as heck to find anyone good now and days...at least of social media and it doesn't help that I'm socially awkward and anxious around pretty much anyone I don't know...
in reply to melvincrews2021
Yeah I get you. It is a tough world. It can be difficult to find people we trust. I guess its difficult for others too and when you express judgementalness have you thought that maybe others want to trust you? Maybe they feel let down when they feel like youve defined them as bad. I know it hurt me to read that bio calling people bad. You hadnt even met me and I was already one of the general garbage lol 😂. Im being lighthearted. But at the same time theres a serious point to this. If you start off expecting the worst people will feel hurt too.
I get that this is hard to get out of this way of thinking because of your past experiences but not everyone is the same. Also, some people need you as much as you need them. All that this tells me is you e developed a pattern of seeing people in a negative light because of your past. I did too to be honest because I was abused and let down all my life. But I realise I have to make new patterns in how I think. So now I purposefully try to see the best in others. I even write good things down that I see in others. I need to work on myself more though because I dont really think well of myself at times. But hey...we're all learning.
You seem a pretty decent dude to hold your hands up and admit your faults. Weve all got them though and have alot to learn.
melvincrews2021 in reply to
Yeah...I can't really accept reality as it is in general...
in reply to melvincrews2021
I know mate. Life is hard. Theres alot to deal with in this life. Im sorry about that and wish it was different. Its very painful. We acan be here for one another though right?
in reply to melvincrews2021
If this is the way you talk to people, sorry to be blunt, but no wonder your’re not fairing well in the friendship department. Your tone is borderline hateful.
You’ve got a lot to learn in life, keep in mind most everyone here is much much older than you. We are all in good spirits trying to respond to help you, but you’re not listening. Your’re preaching and not accepting. I do wish you luck though.
melvincrews2021 in reply to
Thanks....I guess...
Dolphin14 in reply to
True words.
Melvin .....you give off a lot of sh*tty vibes .......take a chill pill give your head a shake and approach things in a different way
Agree
I'm not a bad person....all I did was tried to help him out and stuff and he left...apparently that makes me sh*tty all of a sudden...
in reply to melvincrews2021
Nah youre just working it all out and being honest how you see things. You will get there pal 🙂👍
Change your mindset next time don’t be so sh*tty ... don’t get so mad especially online as people can’t see your facial expressions ...I’m sure you’re a good person when not being sh*tty
in reply to Sillysausage234
I’ll take a chill pill, got any? 😂😂
in reply to
Me too 😂
in reply to
😂😂😂😂
Dolphin14 in reply to
I got these 💊
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Tylenol follow direction on the label
in reply to Dolphin14
Tylenol will surely get rid of the headache I’ve gotten in the past few minutes. 😂😂😂
melvincrews2021 in reply to
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Get the heck off my post...
I get the joke but cmon sillysausage melvin said it brings back bad memories of his granddad and what he went through. Melvin needs support too because its obviously hard for him to deal with the subject of drugs.
Would you do him a favor mate and just remove the pic please? Hes not a bad lad. Hes just a bit hurt by life thats all.
Sillysausage234 in reply to
Ok,no problem
in reply to Sillysausage234
Thanks mate, youre a good one 🙂 👍
Hey, we're cool melvin 😊 I dont think youre a bad guy. Youre just learning how to cope thats all. You were just being honest. You cant learn anything without being honest. So dont worry about anything.
Everyone lives there own life yes people make bad decisions but it’s not our problem it’s there’s to fix
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