So I’m posting too much probably. It’s my first day being on here. Guess I just have a lot of thoughts.

[gottalovelife247]

I’m 21 and have had four relationships. All fairly long term. All very toxic and bad for me, but I fought for them anyways until I just couldn’t anymore. All have cheated and abused me in some way. This last one cheated on me and I told him we need to take a break from seeing each other but we were still together. The break lasted for a month until I told him I was ready to start seeing him more. He told me no and said he was now in control and was going to decide when we started seeing each other. That was the Sunday before last. He came over once a week and would stay the night with me and tell me he loves me. But again cheating the whole time. Monday I went to see him to give him a surprise and found him with another girl. His excuse was ‘the sensitive and caring man you knew is gone. This is the new me and I don’t care how this makes you feel. I haven’t done anything wrong’. I wanted to slap him. I really did. But I didn’t do it. I walked away and told him we were done and he wasn’t going to hear from me again. Well... he just snap chatted me. Acting like everything is ok. Like nothing happened. Should I send a picture back? Should I ignore him? I’m tired of being lied to and cheated on and made to feel like I’m the reason people act the way they do towards me.

[Casper2020]

Hello!

You definitely need to move on. Once a cheat always a cheat. I wouldn’t snap chat him back. It might be hard but you need to forget him. There are plenty of other people out there in this world and you don’t deserve someone who apparently has no respect for you. You need to be with someone who will respect you and treat you with compassion.

[gottalovelife247 in reply to Casper2020]

I feel guilty if I don’t because I don’t want to be a petty person...

[Hidden]

You should let him go and find someone better. You deserve to be treated with respect and he clearly doesn't respect you. I know how much that hurts I recently got out of a very toxic relationship but we both deserve better. Don't worry about him because that will only make you suffer. And to put it in perspective he is clearly not thinking about you. He even said it to you that he doesn't care what you feel. I know it's hard to move on and even harder to be alone but trust me cutting this person out is what is best for you and your mental health. If you need to chat with me more to help with that aim I am always here. I know what you are going through so feel free to lean on me if you need. I am sorry for the abuse you have suffered just know that you are worth so much more than that. You really truly are. You deserve so much more. And in case you forgot you are enough. You are more than enough and you will forever be enough.

[gottalovelife247 in reply to Hidden]

Thank you so much. That means a lot 🥺💛

[Eggshell38]

My dear, you deserve so much better! I would suggest if you can, to be single for a while and work on your self-esteem. I know it is a hard advice, but it would be so good for you. Only when you love yourself will you find someone that will love you the way you deserve.

When the self-esteem is low we attract people that abuse that. Don't set yourself up for suffering in toxic relationships like that, that will destroy you. You are a beautiful soul.

And trust me when I say, we cannot find happiness with someone else. Nobody can fill our inner void but ourselves. I used to think that is just something people say and that love would bring me everything I needed, but it's not true.

Happiness, love, respect and all the good things are found within; that is a true life lesson. Be strong girl and save yourself a world of hurt by not accepting the unnacceptable!

p.s. in a response you said you were scared of beeing perceived as petty. 1-another life lesson is Forget what other people think, people are always judging everything and everyone anyways and we can't control the perceptions of others. but remember that peoples perceptions and the reality are very different things. 2- In case you still care what others think, I would rather be perceived as beeing petty than beeing perceived as a doormat no? Stay strong and take care!

[Brighterdaysahead]

Hello

You are only young...You deserve so much better than to be in a toxic abusive relationships...Please know your worth and DO NOT let any man treat you this way...There are so many good men in this world who will treat you right so don’t settle of anything less....Ps Do Not send a picture back ignore him and find someone who will treat you with the respect you deserve...

[Binkynoo]

Hello I totally understand , but please believe me you don’t need the love of someone else To make you feel worthy of anything you don’t need a certificate fromThem of all people ! Cheating, Lying no care attitude . You ever watched the film Boomerang! You are you with or without someone and at the minute it sounds like you need to be strong and tell them to take a walk . You deserve above everything Respect without that I felt I had nothing . I always said love me hate me but please respect me . I live by that today 16 years together and a son so I didn’t meet my partner til I was 28 so honestly give yourself time. Your age I was working and enjoying life a few little heartbreaks young love but I was simply and mainly single enjoying holidays with my friends and learning to love yourself is the Greatest Love of All remember. Binkynoo

[goldieoldie]

Hi im sorry to hear about your broken relationships and the one thats calling the shots,he needs to be told he cant have his cake and eat it !he is mean and selfish and not caring about your feelings;get rid of him,no ifs or buts,before he worms his way back in and starts ruling the roost again--dont be a doormat to anyone---your worth far more than the whole lot put together-you will find someone decent but let things settle first...