Stalker

[pinkpenguins5]

Hey guys this isn’t about anxiety or depression but I was hoping someone could give me some advice. I am in college and my friend hooked up with a guy that lives down our hall. It was really really awful and she blocked him and then he started texting me so I told him off and he blocked me. He frequently walked past our room and walks past the study rooms that we are in 4-5 times in a row. He’s been really annoying and we’re not sure if we should confront him or leave him alone. At this point we know he’s purposely walking past our room and seeing what we’re doing and it’s getting weird. What should we do?

[Agora1]

I wouldn't suggest confronting him yourself. Is there another option? Security or the head of dorms? You never know what this fixation he has can lead to. Stay safe xx

[Bearcats]

Hi! I had a stalker for 9 months and we had to get the police involved and the whole nine yards. The first thing is it depends on the type of person he is because you do not want to end up putting yourselves in danger. Is he easily angered? When you went off did he have a poor reaction? I don't know if you're in a dorm but if you are I would bring it to the RA's attention at least putting it on their radar. Secondly, does he seem stable and all there? I'm not trying to be offensive I'm just trying to gauge what his actions might be. If he does not appear dangerous and you guys aren't scared of him, I would confront him as a pair (never alone) and mention other people are aware that he's been watching you and he needs to stop or you will take the next steps to either contact whoever's in charge of your building or honestly file a title nine. If he does not seem safe do be around skip the confronting and go straight to bringing it up to the building manager or the university. It might seem rash but you never know what people are capable of. Please update so I know you all are safe!

sending lots of love xoxo

[Hidden]

I had a similar situation back when I was a student. I spoke to the head of security who spoke to those above him and they changed my location. Since there is no proof of the stalker, police won't bother but ur safety is impt, the security can change ur dorm or residence.

[LittleDucky]

Definitely take the advice of the people who have already dealt with stalking which as I saw it was report him immediately to whoever you need to report him to. If you live in a dorm you have an RA already of some sort who you can report issues too and they should be able to refer you to Security if you need. I would also maybe think about reaching out to whatever you call a college principal or whoever deals with interpersonal issues on the campus and especially in the dorms. The thing about this is that he may not escalate he may get bored and move on to someone else. Or he absolutely might escalate and find a way to entertain himself further. The point is that with people who are willing to antagonize you and fixate on other people in this way you don’t know what they’re gonna do they’re totally unpredictable and that’s precisely what makes them dangerous. Definitely ignore him and block his number don’t respond to him in anyway because that might be what he’s looking for if he is texting you and walking past your door. Don’t give him your power. If he thinks he has any power over you at all he might take things a step further this is just simple antagonist psychology. And please report him immediately.

[LittleDucky]

Any update?