Anxiety of a mother over son’s destructive relationship

[Nutt]

Hi , I am facing lot of anxiety because my 32 years old son is in a very destructive relationship. His girlfriend is very possessive and insecure and suffocates him. But despite this he is emotionally attached to her.He wants to take her to the new city of his new work place. I can’t sleep because I know it will be self destructive for him. He’s refusing to listen to any logic. Please suggest what should I do to help him get out of this situation.

[b1b1b1]

Your son is old enough to make his own decisions and mistakes. You have already told him what you think. There is nothing further you can do. Make sure however, to maintain a good relationship with your son.

[Sankissjuice]

Leave him alone. He has his own lessons to learn. If he asks for your advice or help, be there for him. The worst thing a mother often do is to intervene in their son's romantic relationship. Have faith in your son's ability to take care of himself.

[froggymom88]

Hi Nutt! He is an adult and you can't make him see things your way. You can only explain to him the insights you have about the relationship, in a loving, patient way, and then let him make his decision. Be sure to let him know you love him and will balways be there for him regardless of what he chooses. Hugs.

[Nutt in reply to froggymom88]

I think he will surely realise his mistake . They both have been fighting quite often and his girlfriend goes to her place during that period but in a new city she won’t have any place to go. She is not in any case compatible to my son. She was homeless at some point and has some psychiatric issues. My son is emotionally attached to this destructive relationship. He also feels obligated to take care of her at the cost of his own happiness . He is highly educated , intelligent with a very good pay package .can only pray to grant him good sense.

[Roxylox]

Very unfortunate, and I feel for you, bt my eldest two of three are 23 (girl) and 21 (boy) and I wouldn't dare interfere in their relationships. I would feel he would only distance himself from you do. Just be there for him and keep the lines of communication open. His decisions are definitely up to him.

[froggymom88]

I will be praying for him too.