Snapping crying anxious

[Dogmom001]

How do I begin to overcome snappiness and irritability? I feel anxious nearly every day. Medicine really hasn’t helped. Neither has therapy. I can’t even get my boyfriend to understand and at this point if I snap over something he does then he just makes me know that he didn’t have an attitude and it was me. I physically don’t know how to stop because I don’t even always feel like I’m doing it.

[Agora1]

Dearest Dogmom001, welcome to a safe place you can come to when feeling overwhelmed.

We can't expect people to understand what they haven't experienced themselves. That in turn can make us irritable and more anxious (almost downright angry)

Once we have turned to medication and therapy and they no longer work, we need to find other tools that can help calm us down. We all possess what we need but it must be learned.

Acceptance of our own feelings and control of our emotions is a start. After all we cannot

control how others treat us but we can control how we accept their words or actions.

(that is a very important tool to learn in decreasing your irritability)

My go to has always been YouTube. There are many help videos by professional therapists who can lead you through quiet calming moments as well as learning about anxiety.

Once you know what anxiety is, where it comes from and what it can do physically, you are on your way forward and not just staying stuck in an irreversible cycle.

I'm glad you are here with us. As you interact with all of us and we share our own journey, you will see that you are not alone and learn by other's experiences. Welcome xx

[Sadiesmile in reply to Agora1]

Are there any YouTube videos or therapists you would recommend?

[Hidden]

Hi and welcome to a supportive place! Have you always been this way or is this something new?

What techniques have you had success with in the past?

Btw, can I show you how to lock this post so that it's not available to just anyone doing an internet search?

[Dogmom001 in reply to Hidden]

Yes please, I have no idea how to lock a post.

[Hidden in reply to Dogmom001]

Good morning from me! Go into your post again. At the bottom you will see two radio buttons: 'anyone' and 'community members only'. You want the latter.

[Dogmom001 in reply to Hidden]

Also, no I haven’t always been this way, but the last three years or so have been horrible. Like I can’t control my emotion at all. I’ve tried a little yoga and meditation but I tend to get frustrated if I feel it won’t work. In addition to, I’ve tried plenty of meds and I’m truly tired of them.

[Hidden in reply to Dogmom001]

I actually know what you mean. After being put on one medication, I became angry and not myself at all. I realize that this might not be what has happened to you, but I thought I'd share just in case it gives you that "aha" moment.

[Sadiesmile]

I am experiencing similar feelings. I am trying to practice mindfulness and presence. It is hard but I feel like I have made some progress toward the good. Eckhart Tolle is a wonderful teacher for this. I wish you all the best and hoping you feel better soon. {{{hugs}}}

[Agora1 in reply to Sadiesmile]

Hi Sadiesmile, As medication is a personal issue as to what works for one may not for another, So is meditation... If you receive some progress with Eckhart Tolle (great advisor)

than continue.

I search for anything I may be dealing with at the time however guided meditation and breathing are what I focus on.

"Mindfulness 3 min. Meditation" by the Honest Guys

"Sleep Meditation: Release Worry Guided Meditation Hypnosis" by Juan Stephenson

"Love Yourself (Self Confident) Exercise" by the Honest Guys

"Sympathetic Breathing Meditation" by Quiet Mind Café.

Those just happen to be at the top of my list of quieting down the Mind/Body. xx