Suffering until resolve?

I feel like suffering is the only way to resolve and it sucks, I was wondering if anyone finds this relatable? I feel like its just a compulsion but the problem is I don't feel like I can do what it is I really need to do to lead a happy life. Its problematic and in result leads me to this possible compulsion of thinking I have to suffer in isolation, mediation, and meditation to get to it. What I fear most is if I end up doing going on like this that I will gain insight to transcend my feelings and as a result be cold hearted. That last part may sound egotistical or may not make sense. Overall, I just hate this and I just want some resolve and sometimes it feels like either I have to do a marathon to get resolve or make a leap into uncertainty. The later may be the answer but I just don't think I can do it and that better not be true but it feels like it right now.

[Hidden]

I totally understand what you are going through, I feel the same way, but we just need to be strong and keep on. I know that suffering sucks, but we can’t give up. Remember nothing is permanent.

[Hidden in reply to Hidden]

Nothing is permanent is a great remind in times of desperation. It can lead to patience but still a huge challenge at times. Thanks

[Hidden in reply to Hidden]

It is a huge challenge, specially when you are tired of feeling like this and tried many things and seems like nothing is working.

[Hidden in reply to Hidden]

So true. I'm not sure what to do about it. For me it's to continue seeking or to take some kind of risk or maybe a combo of the both. And being kind to oneself. Idk.

[Hidden]

I think maybe try the opposite or something different. I highly recommend things to self-soothe or a form of self-care. Not suffering. Radical forgiveness. Just my thoughts.

[Hidden in reply to Hidden]

Thank you. I've been trying to practice self compassion.

[Tbine]

Hello,. I have pondered this subject on suffering countless times and have come to the conclusion that it is a " necessary evil" that just has to be in our life's. I had to learn to give in to it, surrender to it. I tried all my life to dodge it, duck it, go around it, deny it,.etc. But no matter what i did i always found myself back to SUFFERING!! Lol. I did develop a coping mechanism to it, and that was to accept it with a grain of salt. Try to belittle or degrade it when it shows up in your life. I also started reading about people who have suffered greater than i ever have. One example of that is a autobiography of a holocaust survivor, or someone who spent four decades in solitary confinement. It helps to understand what their techniques and mindset were to have to endure and overcome such great suffering and maybe take something from their experience with suffering and apply it towards our sufferings in our life.

[Hidden in reply to Tbine]

I think you are right about going it. Doesn't make it easier or simpler but better than living a mundane life. Thank you for your wisdom.

[Tbine]

Your Welcome !