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If you missed my last post there is more info that may help you figure out what I am talking about.

Well, my boyfriend and I had our date tonight. (Not our first but we haven’t had but just a handful) We went to dinner then went to his moms where he lives to watch a movie. I had a really good time, until he wanted more from me if you know what I mean. I didn’t know what to do but I told him I wasn’t ready and he knew that, but we kissed for the first time and then basically had a make out session which I really wasn’t comfortable with. I’m just not ready and I feel like it was going really fast. I could tell he wanted more but he didn’t want to because I didn’t want to. I know I should tell him I wasn’t comfortable but I don’t want to hurt his feelings. We’ve only been dating 2 months, we text all day mostly every day, but the physical part felt way too fast. I met his stepdad and sister but his mom was at work, they were nice and left us alone, which was great. He is meeting my mom and stepfather tomorrow.

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Sunandrose87

First thing you need to do is get you a glass of water. Tall one. This will give you a moment to think. While you slowly drink your water.... take time to think how you can respectfully tell him how you feel.

That's right, he needs to respect what you are comfortable with and what you are not. In my book, slow is good. The slower the better. Don't just let him have his way with you.

Who paid for dinner ? If he paid he may think he is entitled ?

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MMoth in reply tolillyofthevalley37

Are you kidding? That is a horrible thing for anyone to think.

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lillyofthevalley37 in reply toMMoth

Sorry I didn't realise you were so young , I think you should just tell him you aren't ready, why not bake him a cake

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Sunandrose87 in reply tolillyofthevalley37

I love your idea... look no sex tonight, here eat this cake! 🍰

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lillyofthevalley37 in reply toSunandrose87

Guys love cake don't they ? I love cake more than sex lol

Hello :-)

If this is the BF for you he will totally understand if you tell him how you feel

Let him know you find him attractive but you are not ready as you seem to have told him already

If he keeps pushing then he is not right for you and most important this is your body never let someone push you into doing something you don't want to , you are showing great respect for yourself by doing so already and that is exactly how it should be :-) x

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HJam5880

Well I told him this morning how I felt because he fell asleep last night before I got home (an hour drive plus had to stop for gas) and he took it better than I expected but now he is apologizing for last night and as much as I appreciate that, I don’t want him to think I had a bad time even though I told him that I had a great time.

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