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Why can't I get and make a long friendship?

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I do not speak much, I do not have a sense of humor and jokes, I do not like bad and ugly speech, and I cannot dodge in speaking, and enter and leave topics with ease, like some men.

Often honest and innocence on my face, I don't know why I can't get friends, and when I get to know some people, they talk to me a little bit and then stop talking, and they don't pay attention to me.

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hypercat54

Have you ever had any friends? I ask this coz some people never learned this social skill when younger.

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blackman79 in reply to hypercat54

No, I was alone

I was afraid of society and confrontation

There were only classmates.

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hypercat54 in reply to blackman79

Well I would go to therapy to help you navigate painful and maybe hidden emotions. You can also teach yourself how to make friends by watching how others interact and what makes them attractive to each other. I did this and whilst it did take quite a while I have never been friendless since. The most important thing is to be yourself.

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I was taught fear in my childhood, I was never taught how to stand up for my self, either. So I naturally feared a lot especially confrontation. My anxiety could just be over the top, so I avoided a lot of socializing even small talk with acquaintances.

I’d give therapy a try, nothing wrong with talking through your fears and concerns so you can over come them.

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This is true. I was socially awkward and lacked social skills just about all my life.

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blackman79

Thank you so much

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