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How do I make myself do something?

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The thing that bothers me the most is that I can't do anything. I want to do something, I need to do something, and I have a lot to do, but my body doesn't feel like it. It feels broken, it feels like I won't be able to finish anything, it feels like I'm immediately losing interest and in the end just have to sit there looking at the wall and not moving. How do I fight this? How do I bring joy back? Maybe just need to talk to the doctor and make the dose of the medications higher.

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Hi there and welcome to a supportive group! This resonates with me a lot. I overwhelm myself with thoughts of all I need to do, to the point where I just lie in bed and either fall asleep or am on my phone. Then I feel bad once the day ends and I haven't done anything. My therapist suggested that I pat myself on the back for every little thing I accomplish. For example, I just spent some time packing Christmas away. I am proud to have done that and am now rewarding myself by coloring.

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That's a very good thought! Thank you so much for sharing!

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You're welcome!

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OnMySearch

Hi there, You are definitely not alone. I am still struggling with this daily and although not a lot is really going on it feels as tho their are still distractions and overwhelming feelings consuming me. The daily/weekly lists idea can help, try and lists your more important things first and other things you need to do but aren't at the same level of importance after. And just see if you can just concentrate on even just 1 goal for the day! So that you're less overwhelmed and you know something is off your shoulders! Then just take it a day at a time. I have recently discovered a singer/ rap artist named NF and have found his music to be part of my healing process! Maybe his music could catch your interest as well! I hope this helps a little and wish you well, times are tough rn. 🙂😌

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mauv

Do you have a good therapist? Are you on antidepressants? We eat the elephant one bite at a time. Don’t look at the whole elephant. Start by getting out of bed the first day, wash your face and rush your teeth the se one day, take a shower the third day etc. We have to fight the feeling to stay in bed because if we do nothing we get more depressed. The way out is one baby step at a time. Give ourselves credit for each baby step we take in taking care of our own health. You can do it! One baby step at a time

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Downandout123 in reply to mauv

Why does that elephant have to be SOOOOO DAMN BIG??!!! ☹😣🥺

I have the same problem. Sometimes it's easy to overthink and become easily overwhelmed by thinking about a bunch of things all at once or looking at the big picture. Try to just take things bit by bit. Just get done what you can.

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greenmann

Hi Randale404. I am exactly the same. I have so much to do. I’ve taken four weeks off work just to work on my house but no progress. It is really difficult to motivate myself especially when there are so much to do. I feel like a loser all the time and I cannot relax even when I am eating. I have taken the advices from others here and they have been helping but last couple of days have been hell. Where do I start and would this work ever end??

I am trying to comfort myself by telling myself it’s because of the cold weather but I know deep inside it’s my issue....

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Randale404 in reply to greenmann

Hey, just you imagine how much better you'd feel if you did even the smallest bit of the whole thing. I'd recommend you making yourself proud. And the fact you're even caring about yourself is a reason to be proud, and I'm proud of you cause you're still here and you're still trying. Everything's gonna be much better

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Thank you so much for your kind words! I will try again tomorrow and hopefully I can do some of the works!

Hey, that's a really good strategy! I'll have to try that. Thank you!!😊😊😊

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Mammamia2

You are certainly not alone. Each day I tell myself I'm going to do this, or that and end up sitting on the sofa looking at my 4 walls. I have lots to do but no motivation. I spend most of my days sleeping. But, when I do actually do something, which is rare, I feel so good about it. Maybe we both need to practice to do one tiny thing a day. It honestly does make you feel good. It's just trying to get out of that awful rut. Sending you hugs

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