Terrified

There’s a guy from my school that sexual harassed me for several weeks back in September. I hadn’t heard from him since I blocked him on all forms of social media but he reached out to me today and I don’t know how Instagram allowed it but it’s really triggered me you guys. He scares me. My heart races like he’s going to hurt me. I don’t think he will but I barely knew this guy for a week before he repeatedly made sexual advances to me then said hurtful things to me and my school didn’t do much about it because I reported it anonymously. But I’m s added he’s going to bad mouth me or try to hurt my reputation or even stalk and hurt me because he knows where I go to school. I feel sick.

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Bloch him and ignore or report him again or report to police

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Need to report this to campus security/councellors.

Take the social media proof to your school campus security/counselors, give them detailed accounts of the harassment in September. Get the police involved if you have to. You can stop him from harassing others as well, there might be complaints on this young man already you never know.

For now, delete your social media accounts and create new ones an option? Or lay low on social media for a while. How bad can one creep tarnish your reputation, he doesn’t have that much power, you haven’t done anything wrong.

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I did report it to my school but I did it anonymously. And I deleted the messages back then because I didn’t think he’d keep doing it. I had never experienced someone like this before so I kept assuming oh he’ll stop. He only met me twice so there’s no way he could be this crazy about me. But he repeatedly texted “want u so bad” then some other disgusting creepy stuff about 10 times before I blocked him. My school told me the actions they can take are limited but I kept anonymous because if I didn’t report it anonymously, I got scared they would ask “why didn’t you block him sooner” anyways I didn’t have any problems after I blocked him and continued not to make it a big deal because I was overloaded with school work. I didn’t have anymore problems till last night he said someone online was posting bad stuff about him and asked if it was me and it freaked me out because 1. He was able to even contact me and it triggered me and 2. If he thinks I did this stuff who knows what he’ll try to post about me to prevent me from getting hired somewhere. Maybe my anxiety is kicking in and he was just asking but it was very triggering because the last time we talked he said I was worthless. This is talking to someone who barely knew me!

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Don't ignore him be brave and complaint to the authorities.

[Ava20]

I went through this 7 years ago, i used to get like 50 calls a day from 10 different numbers. I just kept blocking and blocking and blocking but to tell u d truth just blocking won't help u in d long run, ull always be scared, ull always think what if msgs today, ull be not wanna be alone in places where u think u might meet him. I kept it to myself for long n became anxious n crazy lile hell, I kept locked myself in hostel room most of the times. But then he even called d hostel office.

Atlast I told my warden n hostel caretaker, they helped me to come out of it, they called the guy n made him sign papers that he was not to bother me or be near the college premises. And even then he msgd me a few times but I changed number and there were always people to support me and the warden made sure that I feel safe.

See for a few days and if he never msg agn then just move on but if u get another message no matter with what content just approach your teachers. We think its the end of the world if the teacher will hear such stuff from you but trust me its very normal and the min you will say it out loud to them, half ur fear will go away as now ull hav people on ur side. They will understand, they hav been in our place and talked to 100s of students. So do not think just reach out to them. They care for ur reputation more than ull realise.

So if this guy bothers u ever agn just ask for help. Its by not raising ur voice you are giving him the power to harass you more and control you more.

You just need to believe in d people around you n fight this shithead.

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haha the last part made me laugh. oh thank you ava! those words were so comforting. yes sometimes i want to scream out leave me alone i didnt do anything to you but being silent is more powerful. i've consider going to my teachers because we have the same teachers and they could watch him! but then i have this fear of ruining his life and him coming after me. its irrational and maybe i should cut back on all the crime shows i watch. thank you again.