am i overreacting?

[langedechu]

i dont know why but i feel like a lot of the time my feelings arent real. like I've read so many peoples posts on here who have some major problems and it makes me feel like I'm overreacting or catasrophizing the situation I'm in. I'm just really confused. I've been diagnosed with depression by my therapist but that was a year ago and I'm very sure that i have anxiety as well because even my parents think that and they don't usually talk about my mental issues. could all of this just be me telling myself i have problems when they're not as big of a deal as i'm making them?

[hurtingheart1]

You’re experience is yours - maybe you shouldn’t compare it to anyone else so maybe don’t think that by reading about others experiences it diminishes yours somehow!! I notice this can happen as humans we can compare out situations and judge ourselves too much based on that !! I don’t think that’s a good idea - not 1 sz fits all!! You’re unique like your thumbprint even. I think Our experiences in life and our makeup are all unique we may relate to others or have similar experiences and can help us but personally I’m not sure about so much labels and comparing?? Right now in the state of the world I feel almost like who wouldn’t have some depression and anxiety right now!!?? At least a little? It’s good you’re reaching out here and If you are feeling down and anxious it may have to do with way things are in life now?

[langedechu in reply to hurtingheart1]

yeah that makes sense thank you

[hurtingheart1 in reply to langedechu]

Sure☺️🌻

[hurtingheart1 in reply to langedechu]

I’m trying to think more on taking extra care of my mental health right now it’s hard I know exercise is really important and getting enough sleep -(😣which I’m not getting good sleep!) eating enough healthy foods and vitamins and minerals - I’ve learned b vitamins can be really important with depression and anxiety and stress depletes these many ppl are deficient in b vitamins and vit d so I’ve learned nutritional health can really be a part of helping depression !! I also like fish oil and other healthy fats to help my brain!! It’s great to read also and research things that can naturally help and listening to beautiful music!! I hope you can find some things that will personally help you!!🌻☺️

[langedechu in reply to hurtingheart1]

i will try those thank you so much x

[Starrlight in reply to langedechu]

I take a lot of vitamins and Bcompkex along with D3 are great to take especially during winter.

[langedechu in reply to Starrlight]

lol so lots of protein!

[hurtingheart1 in reply to langedechu]

I wouldn’t say necessarily lots of protein for you - you need the right balance for you -& your own bodies particular needs!☺️ Prob best to get a good healthy balance of proteins, healthy fats and fresh veggies & fruits and healthy complex carbs can help not really starchy simple carbs like bagels and breads but carbs with lower glycemic index and more fiber!! At least that’s what I aim for it helps my blood sugar stabilize and gives better energy to burn instead of crashing from the sugars but you hav to fig. Out what you’re body needs maybe you can look into finding a good nutritionist to help you with that?

[hurtingheart1 in reply to Starrlight]

Hi Starlight!!☺️That’s awesome vit d3 -yes that’s soo good especially in winter and if you’re not getting out enough in sun it’s soo important!!😱🌞☀️☀️☀️☀️

[hurtingheart1 in reply to langedechu]

You’re welcome -just some thoughts. Yea if you need to maybe do a combo of things to help? Talking to a counselor or therapy, exercise, nutrition , good rest try these maybe and see what helps? I personally don’t agree w/just quickly to take a drug or pill for everything- I’d rather dig out research the deeper root cause of prob. For Why I’m really feeling this way first &if that doesn’t work then try medicine but not everyone agrees &everyone has there own way and it’s up to individual !☺️

[langedechu in reply to hurtingheart1]

wow i'm learning so many things and it's all thanks to you!!

[UFC80 in reply to hurtingheart1]

I do this also sometimes. For myself, i do notice sometimes that my anxiety has amplified my depression/anxiety pains,but the pains are still real just increased. Many times some of the pains are dramatically decreased just by relaxing myself, not always but apparent.Like another has mentioned here, your experience whatever it may be is yours alone! Try not to compare another's with yours 😊 👍

[teen_anxiety]

no, your feelings are real. it is normal to feel that way all of us have felt that way once or twice (or more) I know I have. the thing is you have not experienced worse so that is your worst and for you, that's hard therefore your feelings are real and understandable. also, I understand that it can be confusing when your parents talk about it because you can't figure out whether it's good or bad.

[langedechu in reply to teen_anxiety]

yeah that's definitely true, but how do I know if I've had panic attacks or if i need to be put on meds? some people on HU have suggested seeing a psychiatrist to maybe get a prescription but I'm not sure if i need it or not

[teen_anxiety in reply to langedechu]

you do need to talk to someone to at least figure out your feelings and everything else. anyone you trust and who would know about those kinds of things.

[langedechu in reply to teen_anxiety]

yeah and a couple people on the site have helped me, including you so thanks a lot

[teen_anxiety in reply to langedechu]

your welcome and best of luck thru all of your confusing times

[langedechu]

yeah, but like i've explained some things in my posts and people have said that it's a panic attack or meds would help but idk if it truly is a panic attack or if i need meds if that makes sense

[langedechu]

yeah my parents definitely wouldn't understand and my counselor is just a school social worker so I don't know if he could give me more info either :/

[langedechu]

ya that's what my posts are for

[Agora1]

langedechu, trust your instincts. If your emotional feelings interfere with the quality of your life, it is a big deal and you are not over reacting. Psychiatrists will offer medication but if you feel you don't need that, seeing a therapist to help guide you back to the right path may be helpful. xx

[langedechu in reply to Agora1]

thank you 💓

[langedechu]

thanks x

[JudieAnn13]

YOU'RE allowed to feel however you want. Comparing to others isn't helpful. The people who act OK either have gotten help from their family or therapists. Don't beat yourself up. Your feelings are real.

[langedechu in reply to JudieAnn13]

🖤🖤

[Jojo712]

You should know your feelings and worries are valid. Just because they are not as severe as someone else's does not lessen what you are going through or how your issues impact your life.

[langedechu in reply to Jojo712]

thank you :*

[Afrohair]

Your feelings are severe to you that's all that matters you can't compare because it depends on the individual you can't say your feelings are invalid because they are valid to you and maybe severe to you !and it's down to you if you feel you need medication or not it's not for anyone to tell you if you need meds just book an appointment with the doctor and ask for it if you feel you need it they can't decline. I've been offered many times and declined because I believe in my situation they didn't know what else to do to help And I didn't feel I needed it.if you feel you need counselling ask for it people don't have these professions for nothing they are there for support you can have depression and do nothing about it like I did for a year when I felt hopeless no medication ever helped me!neither did seeing a professional I was trapped in my own thoughts and made to think I couldn't talk about my feelings because I was told not to for so long or my feelings were ignored .but it's there if you need

[langedechu in reply to Afrohair]

thanks so much 💓

[Hidden]

The thing to take on board is what appears silly and trivial to one person is devastating to another.

[langedechu in reply to Hidden]

what do you mean by that?

[Hidden in reply to langedechu]

What I meant was that we are all different and experience different things and what one person doesn't find is a big problem can be a big deal to someone else.

[langedechu in reply to Hidden]

oh yeah that makes sense

[Cookie101]

You may find that this line of thinking is coming from your depression as mine does something similar to make me feel like I'm faking it or some nonsense like that. The truth is, we all deal differently with stress. But it's still stress. It will still be triggered by different things and a bunch of little things can easily build into something much larger. For example, I have an issue at work at the moment. All the problems are small. But they haven't been resolved (despite my best efforts) and I'm getting to the point where I just can't cope anymore. You aren't being silly or making a big deal out of nothing. Left alone, it could become worse. What's important is to understand what is triggering your issues. It might not be what you think. Try different things. I like Buddhism. I find the teachings are all very practical and are similar to CBT (Cognitive Behaviour Therapy) which is a form of Therapy that I went through, but you may find something else that suits. Whatever you do, keep it simple. Don't overwhelm yourself with nonsense. Healthy diet with plenty of fruit and veg, meditation and exercise. Don't believe anyone who tells you to have a strict regime. Just let it flow naturally and take each moment as it comes. When your down, look at what has been happening and do something that brings you comfort. There's a lot to be said for funny animal videos. Purring Cat's and gentle music are my go to. I like Ludovico Einaudi. Best music in the world. Helped me with my PTSD and my Anxiety over the years. Finally, talk to us. There is always someone here. Different perspectives are really helpful and when you talk to others you gain there experience and their way of perceiving the situation.

[langedechu in reply to Cookie101]

that means sooo much! thank you thank you thank you! I will listen to Einaudi. If you ever are stressed try listening to Andre Rieu (The Second Waltz specifically) or The Theorist (he does pop covers on piano, truly amazing).

[Cookie101]

Oooh, I love music suggestions thankyou! I recall after a particularly difficult Counselling session, I was heading to my bus stop which involved a horrid walk over a bridge with heavy traffic in all directions. (My PTSD is related to a Motorcycle accident early last year) and I'd had a really hard time dealing with the emotions of what had happened. 'Experience' came on in through the headphones and I just broke down and cried. It was a turning point for me as I think it was the first time I really understood how I was feeling. A good cry is always a great thing. It's like blowing a lid and letting the anxiety wash away.

[langedechu in reply to Cookie101]

of course! thank you for your suggestions as well! and i agree music can just make us FEEL. if that makes sense lol. It's kind of weird but I feel like my best friend is a famous rapper/singer who died in 2017. just his lyrics resonate with me perfectly and it's a bit scary but it's like he's still here and comforting me before i go to bed most nights lol

[Cookie101]

Not weird at all! Admittedly I never really understood rap music but it doesn't need to speak to me! It just needs to give you that which your looking for - the mysterious 'I'll know it when I find it' that we're all constantly searching for!

[langedechu in reply to Cookie101]

well I admit his music isn't traditional rap and he mostly had real lyrics. he's considered a rapper because of how he looks lol. anyways if you would like, look up the lyrics to "star shopping" that's one of my favorite songs by him.

[Cookie101]

I had a listen and also looked up the artist. I can see why you like him. Sounds like he was also an interesting guy on the verge of greater things. I'm afraid it's still not my taste in music, but then when I'm stressed I do prefer instrumental. It's easier to fall into as I'm not focusing on the verses and trying to understand what the artist is saying which in turn becomes a distraction for me rather than getting swept up in the music which is always what I prefer.

[langedechu in reply to Cookie101]

yeah he was a great person in general and i learned a lot more about him through a Netflix documentary i watched. it was like really cool getting to know the real him rather than all of the stereotypes of rappers. i also agree that instrumental music is really calming and i often listen to music in other languages as well so i can appreciate the artist's craft rather than the lyrics like you kind of said. thank you for listening though that was kind of you.