Boyfriend stealing adderall/distrust

[YellowFly]

My boyfriend has stolen my adderall and it took months before I confronted him because I felt like it was me going crazy, being paranoid. When I did confront him he would ensure me that it must be me with an issue/taking too much but I knew it wasn’t the case. I got to the point I starting believing I was losing my mind and popping pills like candy. The only way I could finally conclude I was right was by completely removing my script from our house and locking it in a drawer at work. Then he had no choice but to admit he’d been lying to me for months.

Now, I still cannot trust him. It goes so far beyond the drug. I feel like he lied to me, manipulated me, and actively worked to make me feel like I had a problem when he knew it was him all along. I would’ve loved for him to be honest so we could work through it together, I told him that countless times. Now I feel the trust is too far broken and I’m unsure we can restore it after being together for 6.5 years.

Has anyone else had this problem? What did you do about it and have you been able to get past it?

[blackcat64013]

Hi, I believe you when you say that he has been "gaslighting". By definition, this means he was manipulating you by psychological means into doubting your sanity.

In my humble opinion, this would be a step too far for me to continue the relationship. Not only has he broken your precious trust, taking your medication is a criminal offence and perhaps an indicator he has a substance abuse problem himself.

You might like to give him the benefit of the doubt, but me thinks that before you do, you might like to work through the pros and cons of the issue with an independent counsellor.

[Hidden]

Well, most might say dump him. I my self have had problems, I’m not sure what I would have done if they gave up on me,

So food for thought. He’s using the Adderall for a reason. To get high and/or part of a substance abuse problem, he could be selling them. Don’t know. Have to ask him why he lied. Does that excuse is behavior? No.

6.5 years is a long time invested in someone you love. I don’t think just give up, we find the root of the problem. If it’s you, yes move on. If he’s got a problem, that can be dealt with. Does it hurt less, No. Relationships and marriages are tested all the time, you decide if it’s worth talking about and getting to the root problem or end it.

I wish the best either way. 🌺💜

[Hidden]

I’m glad you found out the truth. People love to turn shit around on us. And make us out to be crazy. F that. All you can do is decide for yourself.

I would confront the person and give them an option to be honest or it’s over. You don’t need liars. We have enough on our plate and people wanna steal and lie and cheat us.

[Cutiey75]

It happened to my best friend her boyfriend was taking her Adderall and selling them. She was getting sick because she had no medicine. she passed away last month she was texting me saying that he was putting stuff in her drink there investigating if he killed her. They said she overdosed but still looking in to it. We all miss her. She was 41. Both of are son play together when they were younger. We know each other 17 years. You take care stay safe if you want to talk you can to me.