NEW HERE - looking for friends and support

[NCflower67]

I'm new here - looking for friends and anxiety support

[langedechu]

welcome to the community! all of us are willing to support and work with you through whatever you're facing, and we can all understand what you feel. if you ever need someone to talk to please make another post and I or another member of the group will be happy to work it out with you, or please pm me (I'm pretty active here and will likely respond quickly) and we can chat. sending love, stay safe x

[NCflower67 in reply to langedechu]

Thank you - more than you know

[langedechu in reply to NCflower67]

always + anytime!

[Hidden]

I have learned a great deal in these last few months. I feel I have learned a great deal. I was recently diagnosed with adhd at age 47. The positive aspect of this is you know you have anxiety and it’s becoming a disturbance in your life. First thing you need to do is to set boundaries, thought stopping, and most importantly, gratitude. Everyone feels anxiety. I am overcoming a battle with addiction. I have learned our trauma as a adolescent is causing some kind of disability with our emotions. First thing I have learned is don’t look back and don’t look too forward. Looking back can makes you depressed. Projecting forward can bring you stress. Think about “here and now”. You can’t control the bad emotions, put a limit to worries for 15 mins, and I literally mean put a time limit on it. Set boundaries to your negative thoughts and thoughts that can make you dwell. There going to be things and situation you can never control. Bad things will happen. So that being said, You need the I don’t give a shit moments, not all the time but you have to not give a shit. Limit your thoughts, because it causes anxiety. Your still alive. Don’t dwell. Don’t over think. Think about the happy moments. Start a journal if you haven’t. My downfall in my life is I worry about shit before it happens. One thing you can control is your how you feel at the moment. Don’t look back don’t go so far. Don’t assume. One step at a time. Don’t regret. You really do have control in your in your life. Make the right choices. My friend, one thing at a time. Make yourself happy. We are all here because we have some issue. I feel this is the best thing. Sometimes the closest people around us is our worst enemy. You made your first step in trying to find help. Pleasure to meet you. Thought stopping. Boundaries. Gratitude. Here and now. Think about it carefully.

[NCflower67 in reply to Hidden]

That makes so much sense to me, and I am taking all to heart! Thank you, for taking your time to share that with me. I feel you on the don't give a shot moments, and I'll practice that ( and all) now. Bless you, and yeah, we're heading to healing, and having friends here, like yourself makes it feel,closer.

[Hidden in reply to NCflower67]

You have to set boundaries. You can’t always not give a shit. Limit your time with it. But most importantly have gratitude. Take steps away from the I don’t give a shit which can cause you to be negative as well. Find your way to look up cognitive distortion. One thing at a time. Don’t go extreme. Set a limit, start a journal on it first, so you don’t lose yourself. Organize your thoughts. Very important don’t over do the I don’t give a shit moments. I will help you with what I have learned. Always remember to limit your thoughts and to learn thought stopping.

[NCflower67 in reply to Hidden]

Receive all you said there. Think I have choose my not give a shit moments, then I should be able TO give it to the things that need my attention. Your help is invaluable. Perhaps I'll be able to give back to you as well

[Hidden in reply to NCflower67]

I’m Steve and you

[Agora1]

Hi NCflower67, we're happy to Welcome you xx

[Agora1 in reply to Agora1]

Whenever you feel comfortable, we are but a message away x

[Ladybug9]

Welcome NC flower! This is a wonderful place to be for support of all kinds

[GoldenMaknae97]

Welcome!! I am happy to support you in any way possible if you need it

[Hb2003]

Welcome 😊 this community is very kind and supportive 😊