Gross roommate? Have you guys experienced this to??

My roommate gina has been pretty messy since I moved it and she could never be alone, ever. As soon as her boyfriend leaves our place (pretty rare) she calls him immediately and then talks in this really weird baby voice saying how much she misses him. (She has a naturally deep voice so this is very strange to me). I feel bad at how bad it makes me cringe. Today, my anixety has heightened with her and let me explain why.

She leaves her door wide open in the bathroom everytime she brushes her teeth so all I hear during the morning is her gross spitting/gagging and some other gross noises. Not a big deal right? no it gets worse.

I found it very unfair that she always let in this stray cat (perfectly fine with me as long as it doesnt come into my room just incase in brings in fleas). I even told her it was fine and I thought the cat was adorable; of course this is because I gave her the benefit of the doubt as an adult I thought she'd clean up after it pooped in our house!!! I went out of town to my moms and when I was back I found DRIED cat poop who knows how long it had been there but as an adult I cleaned it up because she was not home. I even cleaned out our drain after her and her bf clogged the drain with their hair...

I also ALWAYS push the trash out and in on fridays so that it can be taken by the garbage truck the LEAST LEAST she can do is take out our trash. so what did i do? I did not move the trash, she filled it up mostly. she can do it right? NOPEEE she waited until it piled up until it couldn't anymore. I just got back from the kitchen and she never amazes to digust me. I can take a lot you guys. I'm a chill roommate because not a lot bothers me. Her boyfriend staying with us every night, her constant dishes building up, but she is the most laziest gross person to live with and i'm surprised her boyfriend doesn't even notice this (or he does but hes the same way so... it works out). By the way I can't even go into the kitchen and cook without her wanting to go in the kitchen the same time as me with her bf... isn't that rude.. my mom taught me to wait politely until the other person is done because I never cook long anyway, maybe 30 mins top. I just really needed to vent. I can't wait to move far far away from her. I don't want to be near her and how she can live the way she does and track in lots of dirt all over our floors because she doesn't follow the rules and tracks in gross dirt all over our floors.. yet its so so cheap to live here.. and I can't afford to leave.. what a nightmare. three more months until I can maybe even try to move out.

[Sillysausage234]

This is for the cat to watch

[Sillysausage234 in reply to Sillysausage234]

youtu.be/JEGYmNycW4E(Not working as expected?)

[Dolphin14 in reply to Sillysausage234]

You always come up with something Hahahaha

[Hidden in reply to Sillysausage234]

hahahaha ok fine that did make me laugh but if only the cat was the problem

[LiveandLetLive42 in reply to Sillysausage234]

Hahahahaha oh Alan!

[LiveandLetLive42]

Roommates are hard as it is!! Yuck! She sounds so gross. Maybe it's time for a house meeting? Write everything down and come to a compromise! Good luck and vent all you want!

[Hidden in reply to LiveandLetLive42]

You just gave me such a good idea. Maybe not that exact thing but I will definitely write down all of the things I’ve had to deal with and on top of that PICTURES. Not to blackmail her or anything but if I plan to move out and my landlord thinks any of this was my mess.. that’d be a bigger nightmare. thank you so much liveandletlive42!!

[LiveandLetLive42 in reply to Hidden]

You are SO welcome! You have a great idea there. Write everything down. Take pictures. And keep them around incase anything happens. Best of luck to you! I've had awful roommates in the past so I know how you feel. It's so uncomfortable.

[Hidden]

I had one of these too. She was a complete slob. I wouldn't ever get in her car either. I piled all her stuff she left laying around in her room and shut the door. That didn't go over too well. she never folded clean laundry, dont know how she knew clean from dirty. 🙄

That was a long time ago, I'm cringing just thinking about it.

Cheap place or not, cleanliness is a major part of how I need to live for my sanity. I hope you get to move out soon.

I'd be spraying lysol on everything, wearing gloves, hell even a hazmat suit. I kid about the hazmat suit. 🤗

[Hidden in reply to Hidden]

Idk why but other people relating makes me feel less horrified. At least Gina isn’t the only one but thank you so much! Gosh I hope I do to!

[dutchgirl71]

You should pile the trash and cat poop in her room...maybe then she will notice it. She is so inconsiderate and you are very patient!

[Hidden in reply to dutchgirl71]

Hahaha I feel bad laughing at this. Thank you. She’s the same age as me and I really don’t like to confront or make people uncomfortable living in their own house but now that I think about it she has made it so uncomfortable for me living here. It’s a nightmare

[Hidden]

OH GOSH SAME all over the small recycle bin in our kitchen she piled up cans and alcohol bottles and when it filled up she started piling them on the floor and it goes pretty far out and it’s been there for over a week. Same I’ve tried so many times to help but once you stop they still don’t bother to do anything so it’s pointless.. idk how I lived with her for over a year now maybe quarantine and seeing her home 24/7 is making me insane? Someone could be nice I get that part and makes me not want to hurt her feelings, but the disrespect for others makes me wonder who raised people to be like this. No guilt or anything 🤔

[greenmann]

I am sorry to hear you are suffering so much. Living with people is hard. I moved 16 times within a period of 5 years when I moved to London. It was so bad it impacted my mortgage application!

Most of my problem was to do with cleaning rota and the bill payment. The last house share was better and I stayed there longer only because we had a cleaner and the landlord paid for all the bills so we never had to argue.

If you plan to move out in the future, you could consider sharing with a live in landlord? I have never done that before as they were normally more expensive but I am sure the cleaning and bills can be sorted. But there is a risk the owner could be over protective or controlling...