Anxiety but with a boyfriend

[breezygirlb]

I used to eat a lot and I used to sleep great but now I have a boyfriend and anxiety and a relationship really doesn't work well. I'm scared of him finding someone better because there has to be someone better than me. But there will never be anyone who loves him this much. I feel like I just want to hold him all the time every damn day. I love him and I'm happy with him.

[SleepySnow]

I felt genuinely the exact same way for a long time for about the first year or my relationship with my current partner. I would look for any and ever reason to justify this thinking in my head and it just broke me apart on the daily. It’s easy to feel helpless like this too. Love is so powerful and because of that I find it scary. I wish I could give a step by step on how I worked my way out of this and into comfort with myself, my partner, and my relationship, but I don’t have the answer key to that. When I couldn’t handle it anymore, I sought out therapy and was prescribed medication to help me to more easily apply the coping mechanisms I was learning in therapy.

You aren’t alone, and your feelings are understood. Don’t allow insecurities to devalue yourself, you aren’t lesser than any other person. I’m rooting for you.

[breezygirlb in reply to SleepySnow]

Thank you for that.

[HisDaughter]

I am sorry about how you feel! Are you meeting with a therapist? Have you tried medications for anxiety? Have you been diagnosed with depression? I know that talking to a therapist can help a lot. There is not one person in the world who is better than you. We are all different and have value and gifts and good qualities. Someone else may not have all your problems but everyone one flaws. No one is perfect. And each person is very special. Therapy can be helpful for dealing with your fears and worries. It can also be helpful for having a healthy relationship with your boyfriend. I hope that you feel better soon.