Let go

[gerrerd]

Now !

[Whiskers16]

If only it was that easy

[gerrerd in reply to Whiskers16]

If you think its hard to do your right ! If you think its easy to do your right .

[Whiskers16 in reply to gerrerd]

Just wish I could work out how. Would make so much difference to my life

[gerrerd in reply to Whiskers16]

Train your mind, work on it every day! its not easy at first ! but each day it can improve.

[Whiskers16 in reply to gerrerd]

When you say train your mind, what do you mean, what do I have to do?

[gerrerd in reply to Whiskers16]

Everyday listen to programs by people like Wayne Dyer. Depack chopra. Tony Robins. Ram Dass etc. I use self hypnosis, brain frequency therapy. guided meditations. plus reading positive quotes and search for new tech and advice daily. if you do what you have always done, nothing will change !

[Freespirit427 in reply to gerrerd]

This is awesome! This is what I’ve been doing but struggling to stay consistent

[Kat_21]

I don't think, at least for me, it is that easy. For instance, people with PTSD can't let go of what's happened, it's like a recording in their brain that never stops. I still get flash backs to getting sick, I get the taste of saline in my mouth, and the taste of clean blood when it enters my body through a dialysis machine. I still get the feeling of cold blood and medications running through my veins and have flashbacks of Christmas in the hospital when I see decorations. Sometimes you can't train your mind to forget, or let it go. Better advice, I've learned, is accepting it and loving yourself regardless of what's happened.

[gerrerd in reply to Kat_21]

Sorry but it can be done, all is thought. I had PTSD, and the rest, sexual abuse and more !xx

[Kat_21 in reply to gerrerd]

I don't know. I just think accepting it is better than trying to force you're mind to forget it ever happened. Our past shapes us. And I'm sure if you talk to a military vet who hides and cries when they hear fireworks or yelling, you'd understand that you can't always just 'let it go'.

[Kat_21 in reply to Kat_21]

Agree to disagree. Everyone has their own demons, some people are physically scarred for life which causes permanent mental/ emotional damage as well. But this post, I think, will only put people with those problems back because it's saying that instead of accepting it, you should just forget it. Regardless of your experience, it's just not that easy for others.

[gerrerd in reply to Kat_21]

That is the problem you keep saying you cant and its not easy that is a belief, they can be change

[Whiskers16 in reply to gerrerd]

My problem is more that I fear the future. Mind thinks I will never feel better this anxiety will never go

[gerrerd in reply to Whiskers16]

Well ive been there many many times, mine,s gone away, if I can do it so can anyone, xx

[Whiskers16 in reply to gerrerd]

My anxiety is caused by thoughts of things that might happen if I can’t stop the anxiety for example I will loose my job and my partner if I don’t get it under control

[Kat_21 in reply to Whiskers16]

Hi! So regardless of what he's saying, I believe the best thing to do is come to terms, anxiety is similar to what I'm going through in the way that you're reminded of it every day. No matter how much you 'train your brain' it really won't help any. You can't fight away anxiety, you have to accept that it's a part of you, and that, even though it sucks, it makes you, you. I suffer from agoraphobia and people like this make me feel like my problems can just magically be fixed and that it's all in my head. It's a chemical imbalance so no matter how much you train your brain, you can't just let it go and expect it to go away. It's better to come to terms, and learn to live with it in a healthy way. That's what I believe, anyway.

[Whiskers16 in reply to Kat_21]

Hi I completely understand your situation as you are living it.

My anxiety is caused by thoughts of what may happen like my partner will leave because he struggles to deal with the way I am. Also I’m afraid I wont be able to return to work if I can’t control this anxiety.

How do I stop these thoughts and therefore reduce the anxiety they are causing

[Kat_21 in reply to Whiskers16]

I commented on your other post lol. I dealt with these uncertainties a lot especially when I got sick. My husband had to help me learn to walk again, help me shower, and everything else. I was always crying and lost countless nights of sleep thinking he would leave without saying something. I fought with it a lot. But I find thinking, maybe writing down all that person has done for you really helps with that.

Like, if they work to help build a future with you, or take you to dinner, or suprises you.

My husband and me are still rocky, but things are definitely better since I started thinking about all he's went through to stay with me. It really helps ease my mind to think about those things. But also talking to a counselor has helped me realise why I was so insecure about him leaving and I've gotten a lot better. I truly hope things get better for you and your partner.

[gerrerd in reply to Kat_21]

accepting it is part of it you need to work on letting go more, try The SEDONA METHOD FOR LETTING GO

[Kat_21 in reply to gerrerd]

Thanks, but I've come to terms with it. Unfortunately, like many people in similar predicaments, I'm not able to let it go. I am reminded every two weeks when I go to the cancer center to get my infusions. It's a part of me now, I'm going to remember it, and be reminded of the pain I went through every day. Like I said, not everyone can let it go. You don't have to relive your experiences everyday. It's just not as simple as letting it go.

[Kat_21 in reply to Kat_21]

How do you recommend I let it go when I have to live through it over and over again every two weeks for the rest of my life? Just curious. It's not a belief, it's facts. I am unable to let go of the pain I've had because I am reminded of it every two weeks when I taste saline or get a blood transfusion. I'm just saying it really isn't that easy for everyone, and this post really will put those who have come to terms with their pain similar to mine back.

Recommending people that training their brains will make the pain go away is going to hurt more people. But agree to disagree.

[gerrerd in reply to Kat_21]

Ok if you want to stay stuck thats ok its your choice !

[Kat_21 in reply to gerrerd]

Yes, it's my choice to get infusions every two weeks for the rest of my life. When I go to the doctor this coming Monday, I'll be sure to tell them that my illnesses are in my head and that I no longer will be getting my life saving infusions. Thank you so much.

Just kidding. I'm stuck, yes but I don't have a choice. Thank you for being so insensitive to people like me.

Best wishes.

[gerrerd in reply to Kat_21]

You cant change your situation but you can change your thinking about it, that is were your power is xx

[gerrerd in reply to Kat_21]

Well I focus on the answer to it not the problem,

[Kat_21 in reply to gerrerd]

Do you have cancer or something similar? Do you know what it's like to "change your thinking" when you have to experience it multiple times a month, or worry about having a flare up? No? Okay then. Please stop acting like you are a doctor with a degree in mental health. I'm just concerned you are making these people have false hope. They need to either A. Come to terms and live with it, or B. Get help from a real professional. Your experiences are not the same as mine, so you overcoming your problems, congrats btw, means nothing to others. Because it isn't that easy for everyone. That's like saying "if I can whistle, so can you." Or "if I can walk, so can you" to a paralyzed person. They have a chemical imbalance.

[gerrerd in reply to Kat_21]

Thank you I will take on board what you say and change my thinking ! if thats possible ?