Let it go.

[gerrerd]

Forgive and release, and you will be free.

[primrose81]

Well done Twinklystar. That is a great achievement, heading off a family rift. I find it easier to forgive than forget, my memory can be very selective at times which is not always the best thing.

[gerrerd]

🤗

[Hidden]

The Stoic philosophers had a lot to say about anger, letting it go, and focusing on the present. Every morning I remind myself to be forgiving, supportive, and kind.

[Hidden]

This is an issue that I find fascinating these days since it is something I'm going through. I'm at a stage in my trauma that I call the anger/forgiveness stage, where I fluctuate between extreme rage for what this person did to me and forgiveness. I do this multiple times a day and it is exhausting. Being bullied (and roping others into doing the same) for grieving the loss of a parent is the most disgusting psychologal act I can think of, yet I feel most comfortable when I find myself forgiving. But when the anger kicks in, I don't like my thoughts. It's like they aren't me . It's a confusing stage for me, but I know I need to get through it. This would be so much simpler if I hadn't done something that also requires forgiveness. This person hasn't forgiven me (at least they haven't made it known that they do...), so maybe they are in the same process? I've never thought about that before now, so thank you!

[gerrerd in reply to Hidden]

Self hypnosis helped me release! Potentials unlimited online, They have downloads for most things.

[Hidden in reply to gerrerd]

Ok, thank you!

[Mumbutterfly in reply to Hidden]

My situation is different but I too still swing between anger and forgiveness. It used to be rage and inability to forgive so I’ve made progress. I had to leave an almost forty year marriage but I was able to start healing when I did. I had so much bitterness and resentment built up over the years that it’s taking years. Forgiveness is hard but forgetting and completely letting it go is much harder.

There’s a therapist on Instagram who deals with grief and others bullying her to get over it. Her page is notesfromyourtheraist.

[Hidden in reply to Mumbutterfly]

Hey, thanks! I'll check it out. I am very glad you're healing!! I think I'm on the cusp as well (I think this back and forth I'm doing is a good sign of the end of my healing process). Thanks again!