How to make them understand?

[CactusDan]

It is really hard to make people you love understand what are you going through. That it is not about you always want to be sad.. All of the people that i loved went away because they can't handle me anymore. And I am afraid, that my current lover will do that also.. I don't know how can I even live with this kind of curse. Making people go away. Im sorry...

[Midnight-Blue]

My 1st thought, after reading your “pleas for understanding”, which it was & I do, is I hope you R Cing someone who can help you professionally. If not, please do ! Depression can be helped & you’re not alone. 2ndly, relationships are difficult, at best, to begin with but when you put in the addition of an “illness”, that other person would have to be very committed but it’s not YOU that is “doing the chasing”, it’s your “disease”, your Depression. If you R currently seeing a professional talk to them about the problems you’re having with both & if you are not seeing anyone please contact your local Crises Center/Mental Health Facility and get the help you need. And, it’s really OK; I promise you. You’re not alone in this.

[WouldntYouLikeToKnow]

Yes but to be fair I am not a big sharer. Im Robin Williams in my world. I did try to open up some and tell my spouse that I'm not okay and I need help. But he literally told me "I was fine."

[Isinatra in reply to WouldntYouLikeToKnow]

Please get help. What do you have to lose if you share? You are doing a good job sharing here. Take that chance to feel better. The reward can be outstanding.

[shoppingblue]

I understand! I sometimes want people to back off cause they don't understand ! Its really hard for them too understand when there not going through what your going through

[Hidden]

I'm really sorry this happened to you...You have to understand that your depression isn't something you choose..But it is a part of you and something that impacts your moods & how you are on a daily basis. Sadly there will be lots of people in the world who can't handle this. Either because they don't care enough or because it scares them to see you this way.

But there are many people who CAN and who will love and cherish you no matter what.

They are out there and you will find them. I hope for you that that will be soon.

Just be as honest as you can with your lover. If they care for you they will try to make it work with you and you can work at the relationship together. there is no guarantee that it will work, but then again there never is.

And alongside that you can try to seek help, explore medication (with a professional!) and other ways for you to cope and feel better

[Hidden]

One thought I have that I have done in the past with success:

Write everything down and show it to the people you need to get through to.

I have 2 posts on here that you might be interested in. They are under the same title ("What I Wrote") in 2 parts. These show my desperate attempts to get my voice heard to my medical team (psychiatrist, etc.). Although the circumstances are obviously different (as they are for everyone,) could you get an idea from looking at them? I hope it helps🙂

[CactusDan]

Thank you all. I appreciate you making time for me by replying...

[Midnight-Blue in reply to CactusDan]

I am not only replying to you but to anyone who feels like listening, I need to vent for my sanity so excuse please if I bore you but honestly I have no one who really cares. Three weeks ago we went to our physician, both of us not feeling “that great” (Me with a cough I’ve had for 6 weeks at that time.) so we were seen together. I was sent home with a cough medicine prescription (Three weeks ago this past Thursday.) & both given COVID-19 tests. That Saturday the tests came back that we were POSITIVE for COVID-19! We were put on 2 week quarantine. That Monday I called our doctor to report I still had my cough (**We had no fever y the way; my cough wasn’t any better either.). A new prescription was called in for me; still no fever OR sore throat! The following Saturday he decided to break quarantine & took a test which came back NEGATIVE on that Tuesday.. I waited till that Wednesday & took the test & found out on that Thursday (Exactly 2weeks.) I was NEGATIVE. BUT, a week ago luthier past Friday I wound up in the Emergency Room having difficulty breathing, feeling like my ribs were broken on my Left side (+ my coughing.) After a Chest X-ray, MRI (Both with & without contrast.) & over 5 hrs it was found that I had Pneumonia due to the COVID-19 . My saving grace was I use a breathalyzer twice ago so my oxygen was at 92%. So, although my cough is all but gone it continues to hurt when breathing, loss of weight, fatigue but feeling better than I had been. Now put that in the mixer with my MS,, Major Depression & Generalized Anxiety Disorder & I just feel terrif! 😥