Truly Scared!!

[Tweetg]

I have never experienced anything like what I’m feeling. Everyday I have racing thoughts of death. I fear my parents who are 62 & 58 dying. I keep imagining life without them and I’m frightened. They are healthy so i don’t know why I’m thinking about it now. Older people scare me, I envision myself as them and wonder are they afraid of dying. How could I ever leave my son. I’m only 35 and I don’t know where these thoughts are coming from and how to make them STOP!!!! I don’t feel present

[Hidden]

Hi,

I can understand how this would be scary for you, so I'm sorry that you have these thoughts. Have you shared them with your family and/or your therapist (if you have one)?

[Marysblue]

Anxiety.

Would it maybe help to write it all down?

And then look at how you might be exaggerating your fears or jumping to conclusions.

My therapist told me this week to concentrate on what I can control. I can't control other people what they do or say or what happens to them, I can just control my thoughts and feelings and what I do.

I hope you feel better soon.

[HopeandFaith100]

Yes. It’s torture. Sometimes I think we should talk to our parents about it and have a plan so it’s not a mess when it happens,

[JkBrauer]

Good morning Tweetg,

I am sorry to hear how afraid/ scared that you are. Fear can be a huge control factor in all of our lives. However, there is good news. You can take control over your own fear. When I was a young teenage girl, I went through a really rough patch of learning how to overcome my own fear of how to live with my disability. I lived at home with both of my parents and two sisters up until my dad divorced my mom when I was 16 years old. My parents back then were always too busy and/ or not around. So, I made myself a promise. "I was going to do everything I could do and all that I knew how to do to overcome this fear in my life. - One of the best choices I ever made to overcoming fear and finding peace in my life were these simple steps that a wise older adult friend told me about: 1). Know that God Loves you very much! "For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that who so ever believes in Him shall not perish, but have everlasting life." John 3:16 ---"I have come that they may have life and that they may have more abundantly." John 10:10

2). Know that Sin separates us from God. (This is why we feel apprehension, fear, anxiety. depression...) - "For all have sinned and fallen short of the glory of God." Romans 3:23

People often try to bridge the gap by doing good things. But there is only one bridge that reaches God...

3). God's Bridge: The Cross - "Jesus said to him, 'I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father except through Me." - John14:6 ---Jesus is the Only Way

4). Our Response: Trust Jesus - " But to all those who did not receive him, who believed in his name, He gave the right to become children of God." John 1:12 - "If you confess with your mouth that Jesus Christ is Lord and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved." Roman 10:9

Will, you receive Jesus Christ right now?

A). Admit your need. (I am a sinner.)

B). Be willing to turn from your sin. (Repent).

C). Believe that Jesus Christ died for you on the cross and rose from the grave.

D). Pray like this: "Dear God, I know that I am a sinner. I want to turn from my sins, and I ask for Your forgiveness. I believe that Jesus Christ is Your Son. I believe He died for my sins and that You raised Him to life. I want Him to come into my heart and to take control of my life. I want to trust Jesus as my Savior and follow Him as my Lord from this day forward.

In Jesus Name, Amen

[Bluetj]

I understand what your talking about. When I first began having anxiety, which I didn't know what it was then, I was 27 & had just had my second child. I could eat, work, think, absolutely nothing but cry because my days and nights were filled with thoughts of death, my own death. I felt just like you, about leaving my children behind. I am now in my 50s and still have those thoughts although my children are adults now. The thoughts are not as bad or as often and I have cried so much in the pass, I can't cry anymore not matter how bad I want to. I have heard elderly people get to the point they welcome death, but not me at least not now. If you ever figure out how to make them go away, please don't forget to include me in on the solution to my problem. Thanks for listening and know you are not alone.