Scared...

[Lunashome2]

I’m currently waiting to be called on my first appointment with a mental health professional and I am loosing it. I know I desperately need this but im terrified and I feel like im gonna be 5 seconds in and I’ll burst into tears...

[kenster1]

hi good luck with your appointment sounds like you have a lot to discus but that's great the more you get out the more freedom you will feel.it doesn't have to be in one go just take it back as to whats caused your suffering and build on it each week.can you take a friend or family member along.dont worry though it will be ok.

[Lunashome2 in reply to kenster1]

Thank you I really needed this❤️

[kenster1 in reply to Lunashome2]

anytime and if you do cry let it flow don't feel ashamed or embarrassed just let it out and you will feel better for it.

[Hidden]

Be glad you are going as hopefully, they will help you.

[Lunashome2 in reply to Hidden]

Thank you for the much needed support ❤️

[Cmarie12]

I always feel just a bit better after letting the tears flow. Don't hold it back, let those tears flow. You're scared, vulnerable and sad beyond your comprehension.

Hopefully your therapist will use your emotional state to help with your treatment. Be as honest as you can and if you have time, write down a list of questions that you want answers to. If you are depressed, full of anxiety and having panic, you will forget everything when you enter the office. It's also a good practice to take in a notebook so you can write things down. Don't be afraid to ask for the spelling of medical terms if you don't know the spelling.

This is a great big step forward and you should be proud of yourself!

I wish you all the best and please feel free in letting us know if it went great or not so great...you are not alone.

Hugs,

Marie

PS: I always take my own tissues just in case the box is empty in the office. 😘

[Lunashome2 in reply to Cmarie12]

That exactly happened I panicked 😅 I’m no good at opening up. Forgot what to say for a while. But I got through it I manage to talk. Left feeling exhausted but I’m heading back in a couple of days.

Thank you so much for the support❤️

[Cmarie12 in reply to Lunashome2]

Your so welcome and I'm here to continue to support you.

I remember that exhaustion, I actually had the first decent sleep in a very long time. I'm so glad you're going back and soon!

Now it's time to prepare for your next appointment. Start your list of questions you want answered. Add to your list those difficult things that you find hard to talk about. It's okay to read from your notebook, your therapist will probably be pleased that you are taking your sessions seriously.

Be kind to yourself 😘

Hugs,

Marie

[Lunashome2 in reply to Cmarie12]

I’m not sure what questions to ask. Any tips there? I’ve reached a point where I have to face myself and learn who I am and what are my needs. But sometimes I don’t even know where to start. I’ve lived most of my life taking care of others and forgot about myself.

[Cmarie12 in reply to Lunashome2]

After years of going from therapist to counselor to periods of going it alone, I finally realized that I needed longer term therapy. So I would ask if this therapist would take you on for more than 6 sessions and if they can't could they recommend someone that could. Are you on an antidepressant? If not, have a discussion about medication. If you are on an antidepressant, ask about changing to something else. Do they recommend group support? Is there a group that they can recommend?

Those are just a few questions that are important to me personally. My last therapist started as just an assessment and then turned into 85 sessions. She recently packed up her practice and moved to another province. I now see my GP if I feel the need to talk. So far so good.

I like you have always been a caregiver to everyone but myself. Sounds like you've reached the point where you need to selfishly focus on you. You are worth it!

Be kind to yourself,

Marie

[Hidden]

Breathe.

If you do burst into tears then so be it.

You will find that the session will bring relief.

I don’t get the chance to see my therapist as often as necessary due to financial difficulties. I saw him this past Thursday and I cannot say enough about how much of a much needed catharsis it was for me. I was able to let loose, had an exhausting cry to the point of my head feeling so heavy afterwards. As ‘ugly’ as that may sound it really felt GOOD.

I promise you you’ll appreciate this appointment.

[Lunashome2 in reply to Hidden]

I did burst into tears 😅 but yes after leaving feeling exhausted I think overall I needed this.

Thanks you for the wonderful support❤️

[Chanshan in reply to Lunashome2]

Great!!! Relax and try to have some joy.

[Chanshan]

How did it go? Feeling better.

[Lunashome2 in reply to Chanshan]

Well it was a bit awkward it always is for me. But I got through it. I wouldn’t say I feel better I’m feeling mentally exhausted. But I guess opening up is a start.

[wordgirl10 in reply to Lunashome2]

You get huge pats on the back for going. It will never be that hard again. When you don’t know where to start, just say that, and let the therapist ask you a question. All therapists have tissues in their offices for a reason - we all cry!! You can do this. Therapy is hard work but it really can make a difference.

[Chanshan in reply to Lunashome2]

Glad you got through it. Just hand on and you will some joy in life.

[Likeabadstorm]

Lunashome2, hugs. I know how you are feeling and it is ok. I remember it took me along time to get the courage to even see one. I don't know now why, but it did. And when I did I was nervous and I did burst out in tears and that is ok, I cried like a baby and even trying to talk it was very hard. But it's a release to be able to just talk to someone and they listen and they have experience with different mental health issues. Mental health problems or not everyone would benefit from talking with someone from time to time. I got to where I look forward to going. I had trust in her, though she moved so I am waiting for them to hire a new one and will be seeing someone else at a later date til they hire someone and it put me off of talking with anyone for now, I had a hard time driving to appts with all of my symptoms, but when I got there and was able to talk with her it was a release for me to let it out because the person in my home doesn't believe in therapist, psychiatrist, psychologists etc and doesn't believe in mental health disorders either.

This is something your doing for yourself and it is ok to not be okay and it is okay to cry your eyes out during the appt. They have tissue boxes right there because this is a place for you to be comfortable and be you and let things out. Best of luck to you on your appt.

[Lunashome2 in reply to Likeabadstorm]

Yeah...I always felt super judged by my ex whenever I tried to get help. Because she didn’t believe in therapy at all. Then I would stop looking for help. I thought I could do this by myself like always and ended up drowning. But I have to find the courage to keep going to my appointments. I need to be better for myself. Probably will cry more like a baby next time. But I hope it’ll get easier.

Thank you for the sweet words!

[Likeabadstorm in reply to Lunashome2]

I dealt with the same issue and still do. They get super mad about it. But I know I have to do what's best for me. The only person that can take care of me is me. I know that now. And I had to dig deep within myself to do it anyway. Even acupuncture I tried.

[Lunashome2 in reply to Likeabadstorm]

In the end one has to do whats best for oneself.