Problem with my friend

[CalicoPurpl90]

I've been busy and haven't posted in awhile, but recently had something come up that is bugging me and I am trying to let go of. Here goes. I have this friend that has been a little bit unresponsive lately. I just want to talk to him on the phone to catch up and I feel like I can't even get him to call me back. I texted him last week to see how he was doing and asked him to call me when he got the chance and he responded back saying "okay, talk later", and then a week went by and I still didn't hear anything from him. I texted him today and he responded back. I responded back saying "thanks, call me," and he didn't call me. We have talked on the phone before a few months ago and we even finally met up in person about a month ago (I'm surprised we were even able to make that happen), so I'm not sure why I am getting these vague responses from him. When I asked him how he was doing last week, he responded back saying "I'm alive." Knowing him, he is the kind of person that tends to push people away when he is having a hard time. I can understand that, but at the same time I don't want that with a friend. I want someone that actually wants to talk to me. I guess my question is, should I consider letting him go as a friend or just keep my distance for now? It just hurts a little I guess, but I don't want to waste my time and energy on someone that is hardly responding back to me.

[Imgarbage]

I would give him the space he wants if he's a true friend he'll come around don't give it to much thought

[Believeinyourself123]

This is tough, I have been in your boat many times. What I learned about others when this happens it's not YOU that's the problem it's them. Try to give him some time. Does he have a mental illness?

I also untentionally push others away then I get lonely. It's a thing with depression. Just give him time he should come around.

[CalicoPurpl90 in reply to Believeinyourself123]

Thanks. I think I will just give him some space for now. He does not have a mental illness, but I am under the impression that he might be depressed right now. He has had a hard time finding work and had to take a job doing something that he doesn't really want to do. He acted unresponsive like this awhile back, about two months ago. He texted me but then didn't respond back until a few days later. I brought this up when we met up in person a month ago and he told me he just "needed some time." I would really like to talk to him, I especially want to tell him how I am feeling, but I think I should probably just let him be for now.

[Believeinyourself123 in reply to CalicoPurpl90]

It sucks feeling how you are feeling for sure. It does sound like he has depression or is going through something. When he does come around try to comfort him and reassure him that you care alot about his well being etc... I've blamed myself for many things I thought was me and then later I was terribly wrong. Try to take care of you in the meantime. If you are religious pray about him. Things will work out. Take care ❤❤

[Shnookie]

Hi this is Shnookie. We’re going thru an extrely challenging and emotionally draining time. I’m not defending your friend’s behavior, but R U aware of how COVID has affected your friend on many different levels. Sometimes people do shut shut down through traumatic times. It sounds like U two have had a solid relationship. Perhaps U should leave your friend alone 4 now.

[mollykay70]

I would give him some space but continue to reach out once in a while and ask him how he’s doing So he knows you still care.