My mom triggers depression and anxiety

[Dakota11]

I have been staying with my grandma because I am to afraid to be alone right now and have not seen my mom for awhile. I have been thinking about this ruminating thought. I think my mom (who I live with) is a trigger for anxiety and depression but I don't understand why. She is my best friend and a great person. It scares me to think she is a trigger but I'm nervous and very anxious to see her...does anyone else have this?

[Perriex]

Hi there.

I don't have that situation with my mom, but I have had it with a few friends.

Maybe there is something going on with your relationship subconsciously? It could be that whatever it is is something you aren't ready to face?

It's great you can stay with your grandma, and that you feel your mom is a great person and your best friend. Maybe it would help to just give yourself time to figure this out.

It's okay to feel lost sometimes. I hope things get better for you.♡

[Lazy_dog_lover]

I can't say either of my parents have ever been my best friend, so I can't relate to that, but I had a thought.

Many of us with A&D have some event(s), conscious or subconscious, that set the A&D in motion.

Many of us fight with shame and confusion with A&D.

Many, many people want to appear"perfect" for our friends and family so they are not disappointed, they don't treat us differently, or they walk away from us.

You might be having a fear reaction about an upcoming interaction with mom.

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I guess I would say that it's great that you have a good relationship with your mom, but I just think in some ways a parent is a parent and you can't always think they are your best friend. Like, she needs to have her own circle of friends and you do too.

[pam4him]

Triggers can sometimes be tricky to nail down. Perhaps if you feel safer at grandma's mom could come for a visit there? Or if grandma can travel, take her with you to mom's? Would a zoom call be easier for you? Just some things to think about. Next time you feel triggered, try to notice what the conversation was about and/or what is going on around you. Maybe journal about it to help narrow it down. If you're not in counseling I would suggest that, too. A counselor might could help you identify any triggers. Prayers for peace, strength and wisdom.