So I was suppose to have a counseling appointment 25mins ago, yet no counselor. I saw someone enter during the time my appointment was suppose to start. Accidental double booking possibly? I don't know, but this isn't the first time this has happened (previously witha different counselor). Makes opening up to someone who I'm suppose to be able to trust even harder. Especially with how I feel.
Any words of encouragement for someone who feels forgotten?
I would encourage your to give them a chance. I know emergencies pop up. I have been in the middle of a counseling session and had to leave to help someone who cut open their stomach. Then carry them to the nurses station to apply compresses. The person I was helping followed me chatting. They finally agreed to see me in an hour and a half. You see I had another session as I finished helping the second person. Please be patient, counselors want the best for everyone and sometimes they can get overwhelmed.
I understand where you are coming from, that is totally a conditional situation. But this appointment was a rescheduling from a previously cancelled appointment. To a certain point, one can't help but feel forgotten.
I’ve had a few things similar to this happen to me before and I totally relate to how you feel about it. I always felt forgotten, unimportant and like I didn’t want to talk with them any more.
As hard as it may seem, the thing that has always made me feel better is talking with the counsellor about it. It feels uncomfortable and when I was first in therapy I would never bring anything up but I’ve come to learn it’s actually really important to raise concerns and talk about how you feel - you need to be able to have trust in the therapeutic relationship.
For me what helps is vocalizing this. At your next appointment say how the error made you feel. Of course we know that everyone is human and these mistakes happen and aren't personal but it can be really empowering for you to straight up tell your counsellor "I'm in a place of need and I felt let down/forgotten/hurt/etc when this happened because.....". For me one of the reasons these things end up feeling SO BAD is because I'm conditioned to put empathy before my feelings and my feelings never get heard. You can empathize with the situation AND THEN ALSO be like "it still sucks and I'm still hurt".
Thanks everyone, I found out that there was indeed a scheduling mix up. However, as much as you all may say it's good to go through with this counselor and speak about the situation, I think I plan on seeking out a different counseling center. For my situation, this current location isn't available enough for my needs. And though I understand that it's a difficult situation for everyone (the pandemic) I don't want to minimize how I feel. I need yo be able to see someone regularly and consistently. Things just haven't been going too well
hmm, it might be good to call day before to confirm appt if they aren't doing that for you. I agree, it feels forgotten and thoughtless. It might be an appt service doing the double booking tho and not them. Give them benefit of doubt I guess, but let them know, or they can't fix it.
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